Ramadan section, help please?

Question

My husband gave me a gold necklace when we first got engaged. When we got married, i lost it while travelling, and i havent told him. So i want to buy the same one without him knowing. So if u know any websites, plz let me know. Its a gold square pendant with Allahs name in Arabic written in the front, and ayatul kursi written on the back.

I hope what im doing isnt haram, but i dont want to upset him, coz he bought it especially from Dubai. So plz dont say u should tell him the truth, coz its been 6 months and i havent told him.

Answer 1

listen to this story,

when my sister got engaged, on our way back to america from palestine, still in the airport, she gave the yahoodis the bag that had every gold peice of jewlery that she had since she was little, including her ENGAGEMENT SET, and next thing you know when we went to pick up the bag in another city they said they couldnt find the bag, she got soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo mad, but she decided to tell her khateeb, fiance, and he didnt get mad, but disappointed, but subhanallah, out of all the things that were in that back the whole engagement set came back, cause they were in a box, alone in the backpack, but subhanallah, they came to our front door, you dont know how relieved she was. im sorry to say that you should tell him, better 6 months than 12 years together.

true story. but good luck, im sorry if i didnt help.

Answer 2

I agree with the opinion that you must tell your husband first.Hopefully, he will not get upset.Infact, sharing it with your husband will be much better, he should know it.

Answer 3

I don't think your husband should be upset, especially since you lost it accidentally. If he gets upset regardless of that, then he's not very understanding and you're only going to stress over it even more. Just tell him, this is a small matter and you shouldn't have to take such measures just to keep a small secret hidden. Even if he's upset, he'll get over it. I lose things all the time, I have to say sometimes I lose important things but luckily my husband knows I don't do it on purpose, things can get hectic sometimes especially when you're taking care of a baby and you can get a bit disorganized. So just tell him, and all should be fine.  

Answer 4

Salam sister in Islam in my opinion it is better to tell him before doing what you are thinking about because if he is a real muslim it will not make any problems and then surprise him.and if you want to do this please tell him in a strategic way and gradually.  

Answer 5

Assalamu &alaikum sister I found this websites this one has gold pendants with allah's (swt) name http://search.ebay.com/allah-pendants

This one has double sided pendants with ayatul kursi on one side and Allah's (swt) name on the other side I don't know if they have gold. http://www.islamicjewellery.co.uk/produc...

This one is gold double sided with ayatul kursi and Allah's (swt) name http://www.goldpalace.com/page/GPJI/CTGY...

Did it look like this maybe? http://cgi.ebay.com/Ayat-Ul-Kursi-Allah-...

I am sorry that Is all I could come up with. I will make du'ah for you sister I hope you really find it. I know you don't want to lie. None of us want to lie, but we don't want to ever hurt anybody. Plus if we lost it, then it is up to us to find it or replace it right. It is like taking reponsability of our own actions. Inshallah you will find what you are looking for. I will pray that you find it.

Answer 6

Sorry sis!

but I an't help....hope heba's answer helps!

and I am to support my conacts!

Answer 7

sister i doubt you will find the exact pendant online.....but here are the links.....look them up.....

http://www.meenajewelers.com/main/Pendan...

http://cgi.ebay.com/Rose-Gold-Plated-All...

http://www.goldpalace.com/page/GPJI/PROD...

http://www.goldpalace.com/Merchant2/merc...

Answer 8

Trust me he wont get upset if u tell him the truth.u didnt lose it on purpose, just explain it to him nicely. i am sure he will understand.

besides i dont think u will find the exact necklace.  and even if u find an exact one, what if he finds out one day that this is not the one he gave it to u, he will be really upset.

so my advice is, tell him the truth

Answer 9

that is so cute! :)

Answer 10

oK. I hope muslimahs will help you inshallah.

I live in Abu Dhabi. lol