Rape and cutting?

Question

i am 15,and i was raped 8 months ago, by my next door neighbor. i told my mom 2 weeks later, i was so scared she would say it was my fault. she believed me, but she never asked me how i felt about it or anything. its tearing me up inside. i started cutting myself and drinking. i am now only cutting. i just cant stop. i dont know what to do anymore. lately i have been so depressed that suicide is starting to look like the only way out.

Answer 1

i am 15 and i was raped 3 months ago and mine was by my neighbor and yes i still feel like i did something wrong with me. and im in the same boat as you. if you need someone to talk to my e-mail is [e-mail]

and if you have a myspace my url is myspace.com/jennie315331. we can talk about anything you want to

Answer 2

Report it...

Answer 3

go up to your mom and tell her how you feel. try counseling

Answer 4

You should go to your mom and tell her how you are feeling and if that doest work there should be some local phone numbers in the phone book if you need to talk to someone about whats going on. Maybe your mom is in shock and doesn't know how to handle it. I know how you feel, I have had the same issues in my past. Don't give up on yourself you have your whole life ahead of you. I know it's hard to get over so meting like that, you need to just believe in yourself and tell yourself that everything is gonna get better and learn from it. Did you call the police and report your neighbor? If u didn't you should go to the police station and make a report or so meting so he doest do it to someone else. Good luck Hun!!!

Answer 5

Can you tell mom that you are really upset about what happened? Is she a drinker, too? Gosh, I don't know what to say.

You need to call the closest women's refuge or rape crisis line and talk to a person who is trained to help you.

You are not to blame and you need to get help, NOW.

Look up Rape Crisis in the phone book and call the number.

Answer 6

I'm 15 also;; and I could never imagine anything like that happening. I understand that the teen years are very confusing as it is, and being raped only complicates things more. You probably feel angry, guilt, depressed, enraged, hatred, and anxiety from all of this. This can help you grow stronger. You need a new outlook on this, it'll be hard but worth it. Everyone in their lives are faced with harsh reality and you got it pretty harsh. Think of this as a lesson learned, to let out your feelings. Tell your mother that this situation is just really hurting you. Tell her that you are seeking for her help;; for her love, tell her that you need someone to listen to what you've got to say, other than that I highly suggest that you seek help from a psychiatrist, it sounds horrible I know, but it's not, they're there to HELP. You have just experienced something very tramatic, please do me a favor and do something about it, if you want help you have to get it, sitting back and waiting for someone to feel sorry for you is not going to work. I'm not trying to be rude or harsh I'm trying to be REAL. That's how things have to be, that's how it has to work. You need a new outlook on life, your mother created you... you are her gift .. you committing suicide is like throwing a gift back in someone's face.. that's the worse thing to do... suicide is not worth it, and not the only way .. search for help because that's the only way you're going to get it.

Please choose me for best;; and I just want you to know, I have faith in you, this will only make you stronger as a woman. Just listen to me; I'm begging you 0=] And if you need someone to talk to .. email me or something although I don't know you, I'm here to help ... anytime.

Answer 7

You poor kid. First of all I think you should realize that you are not the only woman this has happened to. Rape is an awful crime, but it's been around forever. No matter where you live, you should be able to find a help group. You really need to do this. There are many people out there who care, have been there and are ready and willing to help you. I know that you're left feeling dirty and guilty but remember, he's the sicko, not you. Your mom is probably having all kinds of reactions of her own to your terrible experience. Maybe she can go with you. Please seek help so you can heal from this and not let that monster steal your future. Peace be with you. People DO care.

Answer 8

Tell your mother how you feel. Do not cut your self. And, if you cant stop, go to your counselor or medical treatment. Did you get counseling yet cuz 8 months out is not enough time to get over the worst thing that could ever happen to a girl in her WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE> I know this from experience. If you dont knip this in the butt right now you will never get over this ,. GET HELP NOW......GET HELP NOW>>>>>> TALK TO YOUR MOM ,,,,,,,,,,,Cutting is just the beginning, of a long slow mutalation of your SELF>>>GET HELP.

Answer 9

get a good group of friends who support you. try getting a job or something where you'll be around new people. believe me, life moves on.

Answer 10

Get yourself together. Suicide is no way out, Please don't do it, Think of what it would do to the ones who love you

Answer 11

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!

Don't take someone else taking advantage of you out on yourself because you didn't do this to yourself.

I know how you feel and I've been there before with a step-brother, but i held it in for as long as i could. I would have never told, my brothers did for me.

SELF DESTRUCTION IS NOT THE WAY!

Love yourself and overcome the hard times.

Plz. dont end you life or scar yourself forever because of what others have done to you, its not worth it!

Don't show the guy that did it that he has hurt, let him feel that you are a strong person.

Dont let  him see you feel suicidal, that doesn't help anyone. Especially not yourself!

Answer 12

take it out on a stuffed animal,

call the police on the man,

suicide really ISN'T the answer, you'll just make your mom miserable and won't help yourself.

Answer 13

you should not be thinking about committing suicide. and i think you should tell Ur mom to get u some help.

Answer 14

im sooo sry=[ but killing yourself is not the answer. i got raped when i was in 6th grade by my uncle, so i no how you feel. i never cut myself, but suicide isnt the way to go! i almost killed myself, but now im better! i went to therapy too. trust me, it helps!

good luck=]

Answer 15

Im so sorry hun =(

If it helps, i cut too. My mom found out a couple days ago and I have my first counseling session tomorrow.

I know how addicting it is. But sh**t happens.. and no one is perfect.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 16

Oh baby dont you dare do that. Right now you are hurting and feel lost. Maybe your mom is afraid to bring it up she may think that it might hurt you. Go to her dont wait another second. Sometimes as parents we do the wrong thing thinking we are doing the right thing. Tell her you need her now more then ever. Oh sweetheart she will jump at the chance to listen to you and be there for you. Jump into her arms and camp out for a little while and cry your heart out. Tell her that you are having a hard time getting through this on your own and you may need some professional help. My dear you have been emotionally scarred. It is very painful. By you continuing  to hold on to this pain the scars are getting deeper and more painful. It is like having a problem and sweeping it under the rug. The problem does not go away it just lingers there and it never gets solved. Your scars and wounds need to heal so the pain can go away. So take that first step in talking to your mom so you can start the healing process if you dont dear child the pain will worsen and the scars will get deeper. Stop thinking about suicide life is too beautiful and so are you. God bless you. If you need to talk I dont mind listening.

Answer 17

Look, I know it may seem as though suicide is an easy way out, but it's not...Believe me. There was a point in my life where I wanted to kill myself. Everything wasn't going the way I thought it should be...I had an alcoholic drugged out mom, a stepdad who lowered my self esteem to the point where I barely had any...You should talk to your mom about how you feel. Most importantly, have you got this guy locked up?? If not you should. He needs to pay for what he did to you...Maybe you can call the suicide hotline. It's toll free...

1-800-784-2433 also the rape helpline 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

Hope that helps.

Answer 18

do you believe in God, cuz through God there is ALWAYS a way out

Answer 19

Please contact a teen crisis line and talk to someone tomorrow.  

You need rape counseling like NOW.  Call a women's shelter and ask about it.

Answer 20

When I was 15 I was raped by my boyfriend at the time. It was extremely traumatic and so hard for me to deal with. I turned to cutting and drinking as well. I drunk all the time, cut all the time and it ended up being the only thing I thought about and did.

I was extremely suicidal and depressed.

But now, I'm 18. I still suffer from depression, but I definitely am not the person I was 3 years ago.

If your Mum knows about it, tell her you need to talk to her. No one can expect you to be in the right state of mind after going through something like that and not having been given the right care. Tell her how it's making you feel.

If you feel you can't talk to her, then write. If you keep a diary and are able to vent all your emotions, you'll feel a lot better.

If you're feeling really depressed, pick yourself up and grab your ipod and head outside for a walk. You can just zone out and walk and walk and walk until you feel better or in a more safer state of mind.

Sometimes crying is the best form of healing. Don't be ashamed to cry. Cry until you can't cry anymore more.

Speak to a doctor or a counselor. They're here to help in these situations. I strongly recommend a female doctor and counselor. They're more understanding. You could also visit Rape Crisis in your area. They will have support workers there.

Also, if you feel like you would like to speak to people who have gone through something similar, try support groups online. One that I think is amazing is- www.dailystrength.org

Please email me if you'd like to talk. I have been where you are. Just give it time. It might not feel like it now, but you will get to the stage where you can cope without cutting and alcohol. Please just hold on and get help!

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Answer 21

try and call a hotline

or talk to a teacher

or ask your mom to tell someone

or just get an appointment with a thearapist i know you proabably might not want to do that but its better then suicide.

Answer 22

See a therapist or a doctor.

Suicide is NOT the way out!!!!

Did yall tell the police and have him put in prison?

Tell your mom how you feel!

Answer 23

i have had alot of encounters were i was about to get raped but i always fought back and turned into a saveage so thats why i never really got raped!!!!!.....i never told my parents and to this point dont think im goin to tell them!!!!!!!......

please if you believe in God pray go call the cops and if you dont want to go see counseling!!!!!!!....cutting yourself is going to get you nowhere!!!!! please stop this and go seek counseling!!!!....i always also thought of commiting suicide for different reasons!!!!! but i cried prayed to God and had the thought of how all the people that love me my friends family and all would feel!!!!!!! please do not commit suicide seek help!!!!!

God bless you!!!!

-Mz Gutta

Answer 24

Please see a counsellor

Suicide isnt the way out..I know

I have been sexually abused and tried to over dose my parents found me just in time, when I came out of hospital and saw how much it affected others it made me see that suicide is a selfish thing, it may releave you but think about the others your leaving behind, what they have to deal with. In time things get better

Think positive, think about the happy times

Answer 25

Suicide is a pretty final answer to a problem that is relatively easy to fix, don't you think?  Cutting is in response to the pain you are feeling and wanting to grab some control over your life, which is understandable.  

Yes, rape is a rotten thing.  But think of it this way - he only used your body.  Your mind is doing the rest of this to you, and as a result, you are giving him far more power that he deserves. Did you report the rape to the authorities?  I would encourage you to do so, even if nothing comes of it, because he may be doing it to other girls, too, and you may help stop him from another attack.  Reporting it is actually a very empowering act -- you did nothing wrong, and by taking positive steps, you are on your way to taking control of what happened to you.  Frankly, if I were your mother, I'd have been on the phone with 911 within 30 minutes of taking to you, and then been after the rapist with a carving knife.  She was wrong not to encourage you to report it.

You desperately need counseling, dear.  You've been trying for 8 months to self-medicate with alcohol and cutting, and it's not working.  Drinking didn't work.  Cutting's not working.  So try something that WILL work.

You'll be in my prayers.

Answer 26

Please don't ever think suicide is the only wy out. Think of wat your loves ones would be like without you. I no sometimess you may think that they'd be better without you but thts not true cause if a love one even new u were thinking bout it or attemting suicide it would scare and hurt them belive mi no wat its like it brings stress to the whole family but mainly u shuld talk to a counselor or a teacher sometimes when im having a hard time i talk to a teacher i no i can trust. But u should really call the cops about being rape keeping it hidden inside will never help it can lead to wat u r now thinking of, Suicide. Always remember that u are better than suicide and can rise above tht if u think its to late to tell the cops then jus talk to someone so u feel better.

I really hope i helped.

Answer 27

Hey girl,, have you heard of this quote

" Strength is nothing more than how well you hide the pain" ?

Be strong,, very strong,, get a counsellor or share your problem with your friend or someone who really care about you and the one who u trust, and about the neighbour,, you should report to the police,,

Some are being raped,, and killed, stop cutting yourself and get on with your life,, you are just 15,, prove to your neighbour that you are not just any girl,, and make sure he answers to all that he has done.

Have faith in God, and pray,,. Nothing can stop you from living your life.