Rape fantasies, what do you think it means?

Question

I have a couple of friends (girls) that have rape fantasies, apparently this is quite common fantasy, but i'm pretty sure these fantasies aren't based on the reality of the matter. Rape is generally a violent act, that really has nothing to do with s*x, or passion, but control. Do you think girls that have these odd fantasies are masochistic, or just wanting to be wanted?

Answer 1

good question! I feel like that sometimes! it is weird!

Answer 2

I think they are normal - I don't think they are fantasizing about the violent act of being raped - they probably just like the idea of being dominated by a man.

Answer 3

its a normal fantasy and does not mean they are one thing or the other. if they had a constant daytime fixation with it that would be different.

if you want to break it right down they are not really fantasazing real rape anyway. They are just picturing rough dominant s*x where the other person is complete control.

Answer 4

Rape fantasies can also represent an outlet for sexually submissive and/or dominant individuals. In such fantasies they can imagine themselves as having or lacking sexual control or power without actually participating in an illegal or immoral act.It is About Controlling a Otherwise uncontrolled Situation

Rape fantasies occur in both the male and female sexual fantasy realms, and their contents range from unwilling seduction to violent, forceful s*x. One can imagine one is the rapist, or that one is being raped. One book estimated that 24% of men and 36% of women have had a rape fantasy, and 10% of women report this to be their favorite type of fantasy.[2] 45.8% of men in a 1980 study reported fantasizing during heterosexual intercourse about "a scene where [they had] the impression of being raped by a woman" (3.2% often and 42.6% sometimes); 44.7% of scenes where a seduced woman "pretends resisting;" and 33% of raping a woman

One form of sexual roleplaying is the rape fantasy, also called "ravishment" or Forced s*x Role play (FSRP) [1. Ravishment has become a more preferred term in BDSM circles, as it makes a distinction between consensual roleplay and non consensual assault.

Answer 5

It is about the rush and not much else. There is adult rape playacting. All of the rush of being raped without the disadvantage of being hurt anymore than necessary for the purpose of playacting between two consenting adults. When girls fantasize over it, it is the play acting version they usually think about, not the reality. A fantasy is always more melodramatic than real life.

It isn't even that intense of a subject. Bondage play can be much more of a rush, but is so far outside of the realm of normal that "ordinary" girls could never think of themselves in such a position. Rape on the other hand happens to ordinary people, so it is possible to consider for most girls.    

Answer 6

Hmm, it could be both. It is more likely that they are just wanting to be wanted, what with raging hormones and all.

It is just a phase and it shall pass soon.  

Answer 7

maybe a little bit of both ..

Answer 8

You hit the nail on the head, with your description of rape: control. Some women have a profound need and desire to be dominated, and one of the most direct ways to dominate someone is rape. Fantasy rape fills the need to be sexually dominated in a safe environment, with someone she trusts.

The fear involved in rape play can be just as intense as the real thing, but is the exhilarating kind that you might get from a rollercoaster. You know you aren't in danger, but your subconscious is not so sure of that. It's the dissonance between fear of what might happen, and trust that nothing bad will--aside from some harmless bruises and welts, perhaps--that can make rape play so appealing.

Answer 9

The fantasy itself has more to being so wanted/irresistible to a man that he has no choice but to have s*x with her whether she consents or not. It may make the fantasy more acceptable to the girl to believe she had no power in the act at all. They are not responsible for what has happened to them. I am still a good person, I was forced. The "attacker" is faceless, a stranger. There is little guilt in being forced to do something against your will.

It is unlikely that these girls are craving a true controlling act of violence or to be bodily harmed in any way, but more a wish to be desired.

Fantasies are a healthy, safe way to act out our sexual frustrations.