Re: JW and Non JW in love?

Question

People are taking my posts and turning them upside down. I just posted a question about being in love with a JW and me being a non believer. First off if i'm always around him of course i researched his beliefs and what not. I know they don't celebrate birthdays, holidays, etc. I know many things about them, i just feel offended that people judge me when I'm only asking a question. We are both in love and I'm trying to get some type of support. I know its going to be hard and yes i love him to the point where i will try anything because LIFE IS NOT EASY! Like i recently stated i was never baptized, my mother has no problem with me converting if that is what i chose. His mother converted when she was married to her husband, which he never converted. But her children chose to do so and that why he is a JW. I don't want to make him chose me or his religion. I will support/stand by his side no matter. Yes i love him and for the people who say rude things to me he is my best friend also. Its hard to explain me n him but if you were to see us then you would not ask any questions. As for our children if we ever have any we will make that decision when the time comes. Currently i have no problem with them becoming JW, like their father. Either way i'm willing to do anything for him, i have no problem with giving up hoildays and what not. Or with him going to the hall, i don't want to take anything away from him, i just want him to allow me in his life.

I hope this clears up things.

Now my question is should i stand by him until he makes this decision or should i ask?

Answer 1

Question 1.

Do you always ask Questions and act on the answers you receive in this forum that could change your outlook on life forever?

Question 2.

In the event that you do act on the answers you receive in this Forum and things go South will you specifically blame one or many in this Forum for the end results of your relationship?

Question3.

Are you old enough to think for yourself?

Answer 2

Proverbs 3:5, 6: “Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight.”

Answer 3

This happens quite a lot. Rather than marry out of the Lord as it were, you personally need to get better aquainted with Jehovah.

Your love for man is secondary to the love of God.

Jehovah should be first in your life, your family second. Jehovah will provide the happiness you seek and it will all fall into place with his help.

I commend you for your persistance, and ask that Jehovah's blessing fall upon your decission in a positive way..

Answer 4

It is not easy for you to get sincere replies to a question when the word JW is involved. I have been rather negative towards JW myself, but that is not my intent to be so here.

I had a friend, or perhaps I should say an acquaintance in high school who was a very devout JW. I was surprised when a neighbour from a Christian family started going out with him. I did not know much of what it was to be a JW at the time but I certainly knew to close the drapes and try not to be seen when they came calling. I could not imagine why she would want to have anything to do with him. She was an attractive and bright girl. Did she not know what she was getting herself into? Well, I guess she loved the man for in a couple of years they were married and they started a family together.

It was at this time that I paid them a visit, kind of like visiting old friends. However all he was interested in was converting me to the JW faith. I shouldn't have been too surprised with that but I took more notice of the girl that he married. I had kind of liked her myself, but only as a friend. She appeared very unhappy. She was not the fun loving girl that I knew growing up in school. Something had greatly changed her. It was no doubt the JW faith, and I really felt sorry for her. There was no way out for her. She was stuck. The impact of what I saw that night will haunt me for the rest of my life.

I am not trying to discourage you from loving the man you claim to be in love with. Just think through carefully what you are getting yourself into. That is all. Marriage is a big step and should not be entered into lightly.

Answer 5

I'm still traditional, he should propose.

Accepting his faults and ignoring them, conpromise on both sides, having "hobbys together.

Answer 6

It is a beautiful thing when two people are in love and that should never be tarnished.

However on the the other end the Bible clearly states that we should never become unevenly yoked. If you don't know what a yoke is it tied two animals together to plow with as an example. So you would put two ox under the same yoke to pull evenly. It only makes sense that you could not put an ox and a donkey together because they pull at different strengths.

Jesus when he said this was making an illustration about marriage. Because of children and everything else in your life it could really after a while put a strain on your marriage if you are not together in purpose.

My  suggestion is that you have someone study with you out of the book What does the Bible really teach and after you finish then make your choice if you want to be a witness or not and if you still want to be with him or not. Regardless prayer is a must.

Answer 7

You should wait until you're a little older to worry about getting married.