Re: My daughter(5) and the girl next door love to play everyday. Every 10 - 15 mins, the other kid cries?

Question

I read all of your answers. Thanks! The point to note is that my kid is 5 and the N kid is 6 and a half. I had a personal view about this question. That is I feel that since her Mom is not in Town, may be she is feeling insecure and that is why she cries for attention because I question every incident and question my daughter more. Moreover, the N kid calls everyday and wants to come over for sure. I think I can ask them to stop playing whenever I hear a child cry. Because, it is tiring to try and resolve all issues especially with my 2 Yrs old son and also trying to fix dinner when I get back from work. What do you all think?

Answer 1

Your probably right my daughter is a drama queen and will cry to get attention that maybe what that little girl is doing. Or she cries to get what she wants. A lot of kids are that way.  Next time she comes over just tell her. If all she is going to do while she is there is cry then she won't be able to come over for awhile. She will probably stop.  There are ways to say it with out sounding mean.  Good luck

Answer 2

If the mom of N kid is out of town, who is she staying with? Does she have a regular baby sitter or is her dad home?

I see two things, the N kid is missing the attention she is getting normally from her mom and if she is the one crying all the time - then she needs go home after 20 min of play.

It's nice our kids have friends, but like you said, we all have dinner, other siblings and are tired after a 10 hr day. It's not up to us to take care of other people's kids. I would definitely pull the play time until the N kid gets it together.

If you get a chance to talk to the person in charge of the N kid, find out if they are doing the same things mom does. If not the disruptive schedule could be making the N kid tired and aggressive.

Attention good or bad is still attention in our younger children - no matter the cost.

Good luck, I'm with you - tired and needing a break! =o)

Another Mom

Answer 3

Give them both a warning that if one of them cries, the friend will go home.