Ready for a baby?

Question

My husband and I are talking about having a baby, but I'm not 100% sure we're ready. We're not that young (I'm 26, and my husband is 32- he doesn't want to be too old when we have children). We love each other very much, and I know we'd be good parents. But what are some things we have to ask ourselves and do to be sure. Honestly, I want to get one of those "real life" electronic babies for us to practice with, but is there something simpler? We do want to have a baby, but how can we be sure we're ready emotionally and financially and if we're ready to expand our lives for a baby?

Answer 1

Oh, I want to have a baby too. But my husband and I talked about planning by next year he doesn't want to be too old to have a baby, but what stopping us from doing that? we are not financially ready yet.

But you know, when the time has come even you don't expect having baby you will have that is called a "Blessing" Don't stressed or hurry about that is it a matter of having a baby when God bless you one.

Talk with your Husband, even he wants and you dont it will not work!

Answer 2

Why the heck do you want to raise a child? It costs time, money, pain, etc.

Do you know all the pollution that ONE person causes in a lifetime? It's ridiculous.

Read this:

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Answer 3

Well babies are pricey mostly because of diapers and now food prices and then when they get to be a teen they are really pricey. As far as your age you two are not too old to have a baby. My parents were in their 30's when they had me. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1. Are you willing to get up almost every hour to feed/change a baby?

2. Are you ready for someone else to be in your family also to care for?

If you it would help make a list of certain items that a baby needs. Such as a crib, changing table, monthly cost of food, diapers, formula, and the cost of doctor bills for check ups. Average everything together and see what the total would be and see if you could handle the prices.

I hope I helped some what.

Good luck and babies are a wonderful miracle!

Answer 4

YOULL BE A MOTHER IT WILL COME NATURALLY FOR YOU AND YOU ARE GETTING OLDER NOWS THE CHANCE AND IF HES A GOOD MAN PROVIDES AND IS THERE FOR YOU, YOU CAN MOST LIKELY KNOW HES GOING TO BE THERE FOR YOU AND THE BABY.. OH AND IF YOU HAVE A STABLE HOME AND INCOME OF COURSE

Answer 5

I understand exactly how you feel.  I want to tell you something, no one is 100% ready!  I am 32 years old, and I have two children.  My daughter is 12, and my son is 2!  I was young and never thought much about it when I had my daughter.  When I enexpectedly got pregnant with my son I was shocked!  It took until the doctor handed him to me the first time to really know it was right!  Don't think about the crying, 2 am. feedings, throwing up, the finances!  You would never have any children if you focused on the negetive!  Think about this, sweet newborn smell, moonlight on your baby's face, innocent smiles when they just ruined something, laughter that is so pure it can only come from a baby, the love of a little human that looks up to you everyday, knowing at the end of the day you have no regrets and your life is complete!  I can not tell you how in love I am with my children, but it is the most awesome feeling ever and I'm glad I had them!  Don't grow old and wonder what it would have been like to have children, have them and never look back!  It is not so much of a sacrafice when you hear "I love you mommy!", for the first time!  Shut your eyes and imagine how cute and lovely a child of your husbands and yours would be, then MAKE him/her!

Answer 6

First, congratulations on your attitude - both of you. The things that you say make you sound rational and reasonable -- two qualifies that a child needs.

As for age -- my wife was 28 when our daughter was born, and I was 45. It's going well with us.  We feel that the extra age gave us time to personally mature, not to mention, build up a financial cushion. Children can be expensive!

I think that the easiest way to address the emotional question is through someone who's both experienced and detached.  A minister or priest can do that; they've seen a lot of people with problems, and they tend to build up a sense of what causes people to have problems. Failing that, a friend who's been a parent for at least six years -- that gives them the time to get over the 'oh my gosh, what have we done' feeling, the consternation -- when your child is sick and its 2AM, you can feel enormously overwhelmed --, and the confusion -- a lot of times, you as the parent DON'T know the answer, but you have to wing it and hope you're right. Someone who's been through that will have a pretty clear eyed view of what it takes to be successful.

I'll tell you that for me, the single scariest question was 'what will I do if this child is a Downs child, is crippled, has some drastic illness'. What then?  And the truth is, you frequently don't know.  But if you've thought about it, and the idea doesn't leave you running for the exits, you're off to a good start.

Hope this has helped you.

Answer 7

Babysit one of your friends children for a day, and see how it goes.  

It is a lot of work, your life will NEVER be the same.  

It has its joys too though.  Still just pregnant, not a mom yet, but I know what is to come down the line.

Answer 8

i think you are ready; have trust and faith; GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Honestly, no one is truly 100% ready for a baby, I dont care what they say. There is always something going on that will make you think, "maybe next year will be better." Emotionally, if you are willing to always be around a child and to stop putting yourself first, your ready then. As for financially, make sure you can afford diapers, wipes, food, clothes, medicine, shoes, dr's visits, toys, childcare, pictures and blankets and such every month if necessary. Sometimes you will only need to buy the basics like diapers, wipes and food....other months, they go thru a growth spurt and get sick so you have to buy all of the above. An idea is to start buying unisexual clothes, blankets, binkies, stuffed animals, ect ect. Or to start putting money aside in order to buy all this stuff. Good Luck

Answer 10

Sounds like you are both ready emotionally.

Financially?  Them babies is EXPENSIVE!!!  Be prepared because our son is 8 months now and it takes approximately (not including daycare) $75 per week to care for my son (feedings, pampers, clothing, diaper rash cream, etc).

BUT...God will provide for you if you both really want it!