Ready to ttc...but he isnt

Question

well to the point im ready to try and conceive...but my husband isnt ready...he keeps saying he wants children but he isnt sure he is ready....he is concerned with all types of things....who wouldnt be?? a baby is a big deal,but at the same time...i dont believe that you can be 100 percent ready for a child...we have our own home,money is okay,i dont understand what the problem is.i need some advice on how to cope with this EVERY one around me is "accidently" getting pregnant and im the one who really desires it the most. Ii tried talking with him but i dont know what else to do

Answer 1

That's a tough situation to be in...maybe tell him you understand he isn't ready now, but that you'd at least like to know he WILL be ready and tell him that you would love to have a specific idea of when.  My husband doesn't deal well with change and it took forever just for him to propose...not because he didn't think we shhould be married (I think he knew we'd get married looong before I did) but because he didn't think we could afford it (which we could!)

The same would be true for a baby except that we were thrown a curveball.  My doctor said I have endometriosis and shouldn't wait too long (I'm 26) so we started right away....now he's excited by the idea!  Not saying this will be the case with you but he needs to understand that women can't have babies forever like men!

Answer 2

I was ready before my husband but I just kept reminding myself how terrible I would feel if I got PG and he wasn't really happy about it.

Answer 3

Just respect His Decision He May Not Be ready even though You are.Chances are He will come around Sit Down and Talk to him about It and if he still Does not come around Stick It Out.If He Does not think He is Mentally ready for it then he is not ready and there Is nothing you can Do To Make Him ready.If you try to Push it on him chances are He will Just resent you and the whole Situation Be patient with him and he will come around when He is ready,

Answer 4

I was in the same boat as you.  I waited (very impatiently)for him to come around.  And he did, about a year later.  It was well worth the wait. He'll get over his fears and it'll happen when the time is right.  I thought about the "accidental" pregnancy but I thought it was dishonest and forcing him into something he wasn't quite ready for could lead to disaster (resentment, not connecting with the baby).  After it was all said and done, the timing of our daughter was perfect.  I'm glad we, I mean he, decided to wait.