Real friend problem...advice please!?

Question

good friend of mine is involved with this guy. REALLY involved. i think they might get married. hes nice but cheats on every g/f hes had and im afraid hes doin the same with her. i have heard rumors that hes slept with my other friends. i dont know what to tell her because i doubt she knows and i dont want her to marry him only to realize shes just made the biggest mistake of her life

Answer 1

I suggest that you try to get her to check into his past   anyone in my books should do this if they are thinking of marriage,  that way you won't get any suprises after the marriage and it is to late.

but the main thing is to get her to get to know him better before they marry.

Answer 2

thats a toughie. what i think you should do is straight out tell her.... because if she finds out hes cheating later on and finds out you knew about it she will get mad. and yes, she will get mad at you maybe .. probably.. for telling her the truth, but when she realizes its the full honest truth shell thank you. :)best of luck

Answer 3

Hey. I know it's hard. You could have a word, but you don't want to hurt their relationship or make her angry if he's a perfectly faithful guy. She may think your jumping to conclusions and be hurt you could suspect such a thing, especially when she's so involved with this guy.

I bet a lot of answers to this question will be 'talk to her'. But this involves a big risk, which could even be your friendship. Depending on how you reckon she could take this and what kind of person she is only you can judge.

If this was one of my more sensitive friends I would probably leave this alltogether. This is his past. He could be turning over a new leaf. Trust in your friend that she knows what she's letting herself in for.

So looks like you have 2 options here, Personally, I would go with the last, but you, only you can make that decision. Not me.