Really bad friends and no where else to go?

Question

My friends say mean things to me. It makes me feel bad about being black. Like when we were hanging out they were oh look we cant see you in the camera so you cant be in it. Then when one them had a art project which was a self portrait of someone one of them considered taking a picture of me but then the one with the project said no shes too black. And they say things like your too black and we cant see you. And my sister is lighter then me but her skin tone is almost white and they're always like she's so pretty and everything but not once have I heard Im pretty. Also they always ditch me and invited me to the movies and said they'd drive me but when I called they were whoops sorry. Really what should I do??

Answer 1

I would try to find better friends. If they really were your friends they wouldn't say anything like that, even if they were joking. I am sooo white, like really pale, and I had friends that would always tease me about it. In the end, I got new friends but I also realized that I was fine with the way I was so I wasn't going to let anyone make me feel bad or insecure about being, "as white as a ghost". Girls can be really mean especially if they are insecure about themselves. But be confident in yourself! And surround yourself with people you like and who like you for you!

Answer 2

well first of all I wouldn't even call them your friends. They are obviously being rude and obnoxious and you don't need to be hanging out with people who always bring you down and make you feel bad about who you are.Find some new friends who will respect and care about you. They are way too caught up on looks and it shows more about them then it does you.You deserve to feel beautiful about who you are and friends who will be there for you no matter what.

Answer 3

They are NOT friends!

Rather than thinking there's "no where else to go", imagine finding  "somewhere else to go." That way, it's so hopeless.

Let's face it, you are already better than your so-called friends!  

Think about what you LOVE or dream about for your future. What will it take to get to that vision?

Start your future now. Find people who are living your dream and talk to them about how you can reach that same dream.

If you want to teach, see if you can assist a teacher during a study hall. Maybe you want to help people through YWCA/YMCA; girls/boys club, scouting.

The environment something you care about? Check out the Audubon groups in your area. They have family hikes, bird walks, clean-up projects.

Suddenly, you have new friends!

Do you like flowers? Plant some from seeds. Read about cuttings from other flowers or plants for growing your own.

Some kids love stamps with horses. Another loves stamps with ships. They have FRIENDS with similar interests who don't treat them like c**p.

Keep a journal. Write poems or anything you feel. There are clubs for that too.

Heck, you may want to be a photographer! Then, you become the expert. There are photo clubs in most towns. Visit one. See if your sister will go with you. Or read a book!

Taking dance or karate classes might boost your esteem. If affordable, try modeling classes. They teach poise, posture, walking. It's not about showing off, it's about having poise. Improving posture is free and helps others see you in a positive manner.

Boys and girls can do dance, karate or modeling. If you know you can't afford those things, call the places that offer these classes and see if they have "scholarships" available for those who cannot afford classes.

Some karate classes are offered free, including the uniform! The classes may last just a couple weeks, but you come out able to crack a board in half. That can boost how you feel about yourself.

Pick up some books in your local library or speak to an adult who may  be able to help you.

BTW, when I photograph friends with dark complextions, I use a flash. For folks with adjustable camera lens, they need to open the f-stop, (like the iris of your eye gets bigger when it's surrounded by darkness).

Remember, you just need to find somehwere else to go.

Think creatively. Maybe your sis is older and knows where to find better friends in your area. (Think about what you love or dream about. That can help tip you off of where you'd like to put yourself for finding new FRIENDS.)

Good luck!

Answer 4

ummm, don't hang out with them and say s***w 'em! No friends or new friends are better than THOSE friends.

Answer 5

ditch the racist idiots. You can find better friends than that surely

Answer 6

ditch them! they are not friends at all.  you will find friends who think you're pretty (and also, i guarantee you that they think ur pretty and that's why they hate you. dark skin is really pretty.  dont think that ur ugly just cuz they dont say that ur pretty, because they are seriously jealous)  and who you get along with much better.  just ignore them.  dont talk to em or make plans with them and start making some new friends

Answer 7

Ditch them.  They are not your friends.  They are "false friends."  Those people will never care about you, because you will never be a true friend to you.  

Answer 8

Honey I am white...but I am sure all races would ask...... why do you call them friends?  They are not friends.  You owe no one an apology nor do you need to feel ashamed or  anything but proud of who you are and what you are!

You need to find friends that are decent and kind and respectful.  They are NOT your friends.  They are purposely trying to hurt your feelings...and they can't say it is a joke...they know it is rude and there is no excuse for bad behavior...I don't care WHAT color you are.

Find new friends and forget these people.  YOU DO NOT NEED THEM!

They  need you so they can continue to berate you and make comments to make them think they are better than you!  

You be proud and don't take that c**p from bullies.  You don't need to be rude to get even...or you will be just like them.  You are better than that....so just walk away and hold your head up.....and don't look back.  They are worthless children that need to grow up.

Answer 9

You should stand up to them. Next time they something like that to you buck up and say something smart. Make a new group of friends and show those girls that you can have fun without them.

By not saying anything... thats what they want.

You need to prove them wrong to get them to show you some respect.

... and when you prove them wrong and they want to be your friends for real. Laugh in their face because your better than what level they fall too.