Really confused, maybe you can help?

Question

I am planning to move to a new city- Chicago. However, I am currently unemployed and don't have a job lined up in Chicago. In addition, I am going through a break up with my fiance and he doesn't care if I move or not.

I am wanting to move to an exciting city like Chicago and start a new life there but I am also afraid of the financial consequences if I dont find a well paying job and the fear of the unknown (but I do have a couple interviews in chicago lined up). in addition, I know if I make that move things will really fall apart with my fiance. However, I live with my parents in my city and have financial stability (somewhat) but I am not happy living here. what to do?

I am unable to make a decision and this is really paralyzing me from doing anything. please any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Get a blank paper & write reasons to move left side & reasons not to move right side - see what come up and help you decide... You could consider the situation of looking for the company not the job, if you could identify a company you could work for locally that would have opportunities in Chicago then get in then apply for transfer down the line... You should not  - not move - because of worry of not succeeding, my fiancee also agrees and says you've already decided actually by setting up the interviews and you'll always be financially stable at home! You'll always have it as a safety net. Go for it - disregard the fiancee and move on - the personal development opportunitites sound as if they are better for you and you'll always get by... I made alist prior to joining Army and was the best move ever - it suited my needs at the time and Chicago suites your needs at this time... Good luck and keep on moving forward, never go back it does not work out as things change...

Answer 2

Go for it! This is your chance to strike out on your own and bring a little excitement and gratification into your life. Go to Chicago, go through the job interviews and put in lots of applications so you will have several jobs to choose from.

If you rely on living with your parents for financial stability, you will be there until you are 80, unless you marry your fiance who doesn't care if you go or not - and that's a pretty bleak future. You have nothing to lose, so go for it.