Really dumb question... but how do i break up with someone without hurting his feelings?

Question

yeah see... it's a really awkward situation. ok, so i had this long distance boyfriend, right? well, i got kinda lonely so i decided to have a local one, whom i DEFINITELY DON'T like as much as my long distance lover. ok... and my long distance baby asked me to marry him last night, and i said yes. so how do i break up with the other one? i know it was really stupid of me to have two in the first place, and i keep going and putting my foot in my mouth. how can i do this so that no feelings are hurt?

Answer 1

OMG, just tell him that it's not working out.  Be as candid or as secretive as you want to be.  Tell him you're engaged and he was just a fling.  Or spare his feelings somewhat and make up some BS.  Whatever you choose, good luck.  And you may want to make sure that the long distance fiance is cool with your previous extra-curricular acitvities, so to speak.  Because, they usually find out.  Sooner, or later, they find out.  Would be best coming from you than somebody else. :o)

Congrats on your engagement

Answer 2

you are too young for a relationship and you need to concentrate on your studies.  Just go on fun dates where there is no expectations.

Answer 3

someone always gets hurt in a break up, so its best to do it sooner rather than later and as truthful as you can, just dont say you perfer someone else now that will hurt. Think of it this way, how would you want either lad to break up with you if they preferred someone over you,

Answer 4

The sooner you ax it the better...cut it off clean...things will heal.

Answer 5

first you are cruel, when guys do that girls are like they are this and that but when you girls do you assume that you can justify it. so you know what . i think you should f**k him so good that he will not even care if you leave or not i know i wouldn't and my feeling would be speared so good luck

~The Prodigy.  

Answer 6

lol become annoying... like do things u no he wont like... but dont make it obvious lol! like if he doesnt like u hanging with certain ppl do it... or doesnt like u tlkin to certain guys do it... jst become the worst gf in the world... give it a week or two and he will b glad to get red of u ... lol

either that or jst tell him u'd rather b friends for the time being and that u need to focus on ur career etc

Answer 7

The less you tell him the better. I don't think I would tell him about your finance. For two reasons, #1 that will hurt him more and #2 you wouldn't want him to find a way to figure out who he is and tell him.

I would just tell him that you don't think the feelings between the two of you are there and it would be best for him to find someone who can give her heart to him.

There is no way to do it 100% pain free but that should make it as small as possible.

Answer 8

You can't. Just tell him the truth and he will see you for who you really are. Maybe it won't hurt so much then.