Really frustrated with my mom...what can i do?

Question

this isnt anything new,this is how shes been my whole life!!!!!!!

she gets mad about every little thing and its driving me crazy!!

i cant have a conversation with her cuz she'l get mad about something i said,or she'l disagree.

and,i really have something i need to tell her,but i dont feel like im close enough to her to tell her!!!

shes completly driven me away from her and im going nuts!!!

Answer 1

the fact if you have to what best for your career not whats best for her

remember its not her who will have to live with the choice of collage you make , its your life and your education.

Answer 2

Your mom should respect what you want to do and no matter what YOU decide (you are going to be 18) she will eventually come around because I'm sure she loves you a lot.  Most parents in the end just want there kids to be happy and healthy.  From a moms point of  view its hard to have your kids go away to college and move out.  It would just be added stress having you so far away.  Don't forget she devoted the past 18 years to you and your life.  Its hard to let that control go. Just remember to answer all her phone calls and keep in touch.  About the flat iron moms do things and get mad for reasons that you will not understand until you are one yourself! Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Well, if there is really "no reasoning with her," then it may be time to start taking control of your own life.  

If you're looking at colleges, you're probably in your junior or senior year.  You have a good idea of what you want to do with your life.  Now it's a matter of getting information from several different schools about the programs they offer. You can do that without consulting your mom - do some online research.  If you don't know how to begin, your school counselor can help.  When you find a few schools that seem to match what you're looking for, write or email them and ask for more information on major programs, financial aid and costs, and on-campus residences.  You might also look for information on services for students, such as health care, safety, counseling, tutoring, dorm living specialists, parent programs, etc.  

Bring the information to your mother and show her that you're capable of making an informed choice about your future education. She is probably worried that if you go far away, you may be all alone if you need help.  Reassure her that you will choose a campus where any kind of help is available if you need it, and show her all the services they offer.  Reassure her that you will come home and visit and will stay in touch by email or phone.

If she still doesn't see it your way, your school counselor can help you with the application process.  

I know that doesn't solve all the problems you wrote about, but planning for your eventual departure can help you live with some of the annoyances you're feeling now.  If you can, find someone to confide in and tell your frustrations to.  It sounds like you want to talk to somebody.  If not her, is there another trusted person who could substitute?

Good luck, and hang in there; this will not last forever.  

Answer 4

i would just do what you want 2 because its your life.......i wouldnt let your mom control eveything! try talking 2 your mom and ask her whats up or if there is something bothering her that she keeps on getting angry