Really need advice here? Especially from anyone whos been an an experience like this!?

Question

I'm having a baby with a guy who is not my bf, yeah irresponsible i know but i have learned from this and have decided to just make the best out of this situation.

He's known about hepregnancy for a few months and hasnt been pretty much any support to me.

Now when i tell him i am moving home, which is on the otherside of Canada he tells me that he doesnt want me to and that he will step up and he knows he will be a good father to the baby.

But i have no family or close friends here, so i still want to go, i want to make sure this baby is taken care of and i cant just go by him saying he'll be there.

Is it wrong of me to leave and not really give hime a chance at being a father ? Or am i doing the right thing.... I really believe that leaving is the more responsible thing to do.

PS. I am 23 he is 26.

Answer 1

Do whatever is best for the baby... the baby should really grow up with a father in his/her life.... if he/she doesn't they can end up with some serious problems when they get older.... so take that into consideration.... i think you should give the father a chance... it's not fair to him either if he doesn't get to see his own baby... remember, the baby is his too... you guys are both a part of this.... wish you the best of luck

Answer 2

move to your family, i'm 21 when i had my baby boy i was far away from my family(father ,mother,sister) my hubby was great help but still he was working ,,,after delivery,breastfeeding with newborn believe me it's IMPOSSIBLE alone, u need rest,rest,rest,and emotional support,....he wants the baby he goes where u two are! believe me if he's good father  u will see that,,but now go to your family,,,,

Answer 3

You need to move for your own sake and so you can have a support base. I would tell ths guy he is welcome to visit you and his child whenever he wishes. If he really wants to be in this child's life, he will understand and keep in contact to find out how his child is going

Answer 4

just give him a chance and if thing s don't work out you can always go home.

there are not many guys that would step up like that

Answer 5

If he hasn't showed much support as of yet, what makes you think he's going to change? Women always think they can change men but its usually not a reality. Are you willing to go thru delivery alone when he doesn't show up, or would you rather not take a chance and at least go home for the delivery and have the support of your family??? you can always come back if he shows interest in seeing his child. At this point you need to figure out what is best for YOU and your BABY. He will come around when he decides he needs to be there, if ever. Good Luck and Congratulations on your baby

Answer 6

Follow your heart.  Sounds like you might be better off and your baby might be better off closer to your family.  Tell him if he wants to be involved he can move too.  You are neither married nor dating... even if he is supportive of or there for the baby, what about YOU?  If you are sick, will he come over and care for you and the baby?  Will he watch the baby if you have a doctor's appt?  Will he offer babysitting when you want to go out in the future?  Moving closer to your family is such a great idea for you, plus the baby having more extended family nearby can only help as well!