Really need help...girl im crazy about leaves for school at the end of the week and isnt ready to begilfriend?

Question

theres this girl that i have totally fallen for this past month and i would love nothing more than to be in her life and to be her boyfriend..she says she feels the same about me, however shes a couple months removed from a 3 year relationship and is afraid to rush anything and get hurt once more. She is going back to school this friday and will be done for good in december. She wants to go there and see how much she misses me and know that we can work being long distance (couple hours away)....is it wrong for me to ask that she not see or date any other guys in the meantime while she sees if shes ready...i just dont know what to do and where to go from here with her leaving and unable to tell me she wants a relationship....how long should i wait around and see how she feels? should i wait at all? anything you can help me with would be so appreciated..thanks so much

Answer 1

Keep in touch, the little things matter, like send her flowers, or instead of e-mail, an old fashioned handwritten letter. Don`t overdo it though, if you ask her nor to see anyone, she will find you to be controlling, and no woman likes that. Don`t call her ten times a day, and flood her world with texts and e-mails, you`re sure to push her away. Try to be her friend more than anything else right now, and if you play your cards right, you can be with her. Come off as a sweet , patient caring guy, and she`ll forget about all the other guys, and begin comparing you to them. Patience!!

Answer 2

How old are the two of you?  

Can you ask her not to date during this last semester at school:  Yes.  But be prepared for her to tell you that she considers that an unreasonable request.  She's already told you she doesn't want to be your girlfriend.  So if she decides to date, she's entitled.  And so are you, by the way - you don't have to sit at home until December.

Should you wait:  It really doesn't matter.  What matters is that you maintain a friendship with this girl, no strings attached and NO PRESSURE.  Don't ask her if she's dating, and don't tell her if you are.  She's not your girlfriend and you're not her boyfriend.

She's only a couple of months out of a long relationship, according to you.  Long relationships aren't something you get over in a couple of weeks.  Your first relationship after a break-up tends to be a rebound relationship, and those NEVER work out for anybody.  The only thing they're good for is to remind the person that their break-up wasn't the end of the world and that they really can date again.

Four months.  That's all she'll be gone.  In four months, she'll probably be more interested in dating one person in particular.  She'll have finished school, and that will take a lot of pressure off.  So in these 4 months, don't add to her pressure.  Just be her friend and know that she can and should do whatever she wants or needs to do.  When she comes home in December, the two of you can decide whether dating is your next step.  Or not.

Answer 3

It all sounds pretty ridiculous to me.  

Answer 4

Do what feels right to you. Just don't make any demands as that's going to hurt the situation. Tell her that you'll be waiting for when she gets back. Four months isn't a long time to wait.

Answer 5

Dont worry, make sure you get her contacts e,g phone email and adress so that you can keep in touch!

and then maybe if you give it time you can go and see her Im sure if she feels the way that you do she will be more than pleased to see you!

(dont rush anything and remember that she is a young women and is just about to enter the world so she may need to concentrate on her exams!)

Kate