Reasons for this guy's behaviour?

Question

I know this guy because my friend's told me about him, who is quiet yet independant. He's assaulted his now ex wife and been verbally abusive towards her and their daughter. He never accepted responsibility for wrecking their marriage by cheating with another woman, and accused the wife of being a s**t. Is he likely to become similiar towards his current girlfriend in the future? He puts her before everything else now, even his kids. He was young when he got with his wife and recently left her. It's also rumoured thathe does drugs. Could he of had bad experiences in the past or of got simply bored in his marriage? I'm just interested, please give your views. Thanks =]

Answer 1

a good predictor of what a man will do in the future is to look at what he did to the other women he once loved.being young doesn't excuse treating others like this.the reasons are bad character, being insensitive, maybe running away from responsibility, and being just plain immature, and selfish.people who never accept responsibility are in denial about themselves and never grow emotionally or spiritually.

Answer 2

I'm 99% sure he will treat this girl the very same as he did the other...he is already showing signs of it by the fact he puts her before his children... It doesn't matter what has happened in his past, present...he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions and family.

Answer 3

Sounds like on guy I would be staying well clear of, for obvious reasons.

Answer 4

I think he`s telling you....i mean her what she wants to hear, that hes a bad boy..etc .

Answer 5

"Could he of had bad experiences in the past or of got simply bored in his marriage?"

This would be a poor excuse to use for bad behavior. One must take responsibility for their own actions & being abusive to others is never an appropriate response.

This person either has a drug problem &/or an anger management problem. Either way he needs professional help to get control of his behavior & his life.

Answer 6

Yes there is a 90% chance of him being the same, and i would advise any female to avoid him like the plague.

No excuses should be made for his past behaviour or allowance for his future.

Answer 7

well it could be that he had some kind of bad experience when he was a child or something recent that could have happened that could just make him snap and act like this. its hard to say.

Answer 8

there are so many reasons people dont get over their past. he has a past maybe his dad or someone belt him, maybe he was molested, maybe he was verbally and physically abused he needs to go to a doctor and sort it out until then you can report this behaviour to the police and take out a restraining order out on him. blokes do want to get over their past but they just dont know how to say they have a problem, its admitting that they have a fault and how many blokes do you know that admit to their own mistakes?he needs to realise this himself and maybe he needs to be accessed for mental illness if you are concerned write to you local gp and ask for advice or the police in the mean time stay very far away from him. take care

Answer 9

she is new to him and he's still trying all his tricks to get her under his thumb,and once he "got" her, he will treat her exactly the way he did to his wife.

do NOT think it's a good thing when a father puts a new girl before his own blood children,if he doesn't even care about his own kids, then how much this newly means to him? there'll be always new girls ahead...

once cheater, always cheater.

he can act like a saint for now, but that's a just a trick all cheaters use.

Answer 10

He will be the same with the new girl very soon. Who would want a man that put you before his kid? I would not. He is responsible for his own actions. He did not beat his wife and cheat on her because he was bored. Are you nuts?

Answer 11

To be honest im like him aswell. I just think we or I have issues. I like to be in charge and get paranoid when my gf gets to independent because of a girl in the past hurting me and sleeping around.