Recently, my daughter has adopted the "emo" style and goes to vampirefreaks.com should i be concerned???

Question

She's been a good kid up until this point... Does this mean she is suicidal?

Answer 1

You think your daughter is suicidal based on the music she listens to and the way she dresses?

Yeah, a small percentage of emo's are suicidal but I'm sure that so are people in every stereotype

Do you even know what an emo is?

Answer 2

Um........werent you a kid once?

Answer 3

It's funny, someone just asked about how they can get their mom to see emo/punk as their "style" of choice and not a way of life. Maybe talking to her about her sudden transformation may help. And then, accepting her decision to be what she at this moment feels she is, as long as it entails makeup and dressing, would probably make her feel secure and respected.

Answer 4

Umm its a trend some people can go a little to far. You should keep an eye really cause everyone i know is starting to follow this so called trend and pretends they're always sad.

They probably just want to be accepted and to seem cool. (shakes head) wish some people could just be them selves and see who like them for them.

but usually posers: just like the trend

some emos: thinks and acts sad and do the trends

then there are other emos who: thinks and acts sad, cut themselves, and do the trends.

i don't have anything against emos but some people that i know have these causes: (they're all emos)

-suicidal

-heat stroke (some wears black jackets during hot weather)

its cool to follow a trend but its not cool when you don't even know who you are. trust me i have lots of friends who turned to emo and can't turn back to their old self. their true self.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear that. I hate when I see kids following others because  that is what they feel they need to do to fit in somewhere.

I wouldn't worry about her being suicidal. She is probably just trying to fit in or possibly get your attention. If you used to spend alot of time together and are not now she may want your attention and this is the way she gets it by dressing in a manner you don't like.

Answer 6

how old is your daughter that would help. Don't worry too much though. I was a goth and I grew out of it. And yes I was hard core, Black leather trench coat, black long hair, music everything. She is just trying to find herself and she will probably try different styles before she settles. Don't worry she'll be fine. if you are very concerned just talk to her about it. Good Luck ;)

Answer 7

Honestly, if she's just adopting the style, it's fine, and the more you react to it, the more she'll respond, and not necessarily in a good way. It's most likely just a phase, but if her personality is also really dark and closed, and you're worried, think about what might of triggered it, and talk to her about it. The key is that she knows you accept her whether she's dressing this way or not, and make her feel that you're there to listen, not judge or criticize.

Answer 8

Well, I am a mild emo, hair (natural color, one streak) music and emotional, but I am FAAAAR from suicidal, I LOVE life, and I am optimistic. Look, you are the mother, so TELL her you dont like it or stop using that is it bother you. I would also recomend comunication, but I doubt she is suicidal, not all emos are like that.

EDIT: I am NO SHEEP! I use it cuz I like the style and I LOVE vampires but only the nice ones, not bloodsuker dracula. Its a face, before vampires, I was into marmaids, in a few years I´ll probably be into...idk, mythology, its just a face, she´ll grow out of it

Answer 9

No, i've been useing vf for two years and I'm still alive.

Answer 10

WE ARE NOT SHEEP!!!!!

Nah, I got sidebangs and I love vampires!

Of course I was also suicidal.......

No, it just means she's getting different interests.

Answer 11

It means she has adopted a certain style, and that's all.

Emo/goth is not a sign of suicidal tendencies.

It CAN be a reaction, though. A reaction to what? A reaction to not being taken seriously. When I was in high school I went very metal-goth the entire time, and wore a lot of black, my logic being that for all anyone actually cared about my thoughts and feelings I might as well be dead, so I surrounded myself with metal and death imagery as a reaction.

And really, why not? What we now consider "high-school age," defining people by how many years of mental imprisonment they've suffered through, was considered adulthood for almost the entire course of human history up until 1899. The conflict between biologically being an adult and being societally treated like an infant is naturally going to be a source of stress, conflict, and negativity - the very feelings that draw people to an emo/goth style.

I think you should be concerned, but not in the way you think, and not for the reasons you think. Talk to your daughter. Remember that "good" and "obedient" are not synonymous, and she is not "bad" just because she wears clothes that are not to your taste. Her body, her money, her stuff...

Is it, in fact, just a clothing style as the aforementioned questioner claimed? If so, leave her alone. Taste changes with time. She'll probably be wearing conservative pant-suits and going to law school in ten years (or some such thing).

Is it, as I said, a reaction to feeling held down by society? Help her to overcome those feelings. Guide her to have more adult control of her life (including relaxing YOUR control of her life, which can be part of what she feels is holding her down, even if she doesn't tell you about it). Help her get a job, get involved in charity work (www.asfar.org or www.youthrights.org are good ones to work with for this sort of thing), or something else that is entirely by her for her and that doesn't feel childish.

Empowerment is the most important part of developing (or re-developing) self worth.

Answer 12

No she is not suicidal.  What do you mean she has been good til now?  Is dressing differently bad?

Its just a style of dress, a phase.  The more you fight it the longer the phase will last.

Answer 13

No, she's just following a crowd. Be honest and tell her she looks *insert disgusting insult here* Its harsh but at least she will understand that this look isn't her.

Answer 14

From what I have heard from my younger brother who is in highschool...its a clan of people that adopt the black style and cut themselves. Terribly inappropriate if you ask me. I think it is awfult that teens are using this to form little groupies of friends that cut and talk about it. I remember when there were things like that in highschool but heaven forbid we ever talked about it openly and actually named ourselves.???

Emos? That is wrong and it should be stopped. I understand that we have to let our youth express themselves but I think it has gotten out of hand and now they do and dress and say whatever they want and parents just deal with it...schools deal with it. I would say to keep her away from that **** cause thats what it is and cutting is not  a good thing. Alot of the stuff teens do these days or wear is offensive to a wide variety of people and being emo is one of those offences becasue it takes away from who these teens really are and shows others unnecassary things like black clothes and swearing and cutting and makeup that looks evil. Some don't even wear the clothes and still cut themselves...or some don't cut and just listen to that kind of "emo" music. I don't know, its all so confusing cause nothing makes sense to begin with.

Its wrong and teens should not be able to visit sites such as that. Personal opinion but try to steer her clear of this generations faults by talking to her about the --joys of colours and keeping skin intact.--

Answer 15

No she is just becoming yet another sheep.

Answer 16

Emo is a lot better than a lot of other choices she could have made. These things are just phases. I was a punk. Now I'm the most boring English teacher you can imagine.  It is normal for kids with any intelligent to think about suicide as part of their thinking in general about the big world. Vampires are very cool right now.  Allow her to explore these aspects of herself and tell her how nice she looks. The teen years are tough - kids need all the love and approval they can get.

If she was drugging, drinking, whoring, stealing, fighting, and generally really going off the rails, that would be a different story. be glad you have a nice normal girl.

Answer 17

Wow, Andrew that was a little too harsh and opinionated.

But, I went though the exact same stage. And that's probably what it is, a stage. Kids/Teens go though HUNDREDS of stages. Just because you don't happen to like this particular one, doesn't mean shes 'suicidal' etc. And if you harass her about it she might just end up being a 'not so good girl' she once was.

emo+black clothes+etc. doesn't equal bad.

Answer 18

your stupid