Recently engaged....

Question

i got recently engaged to my boyfriend, but now i'm worried he doesn't feel the same way. help me please. i really do love him but i need to know if he still loves me. what should i do?

Answer 1

Well if your boyfriend asked you to marry him, I'm sure he loves you.

Guys wouldn't just say "Will you marry me" for the sake of it. If you feel insecure just ask him or start talking about wedding stuff & see how excited he gets about it.

See if he shows interest in wedding stuff, ask him his opinions, ask him what he'd like.

Answer 2

Talk to him about it. :) If you are having trouble communicating verbally, then write a letter explaining how you feel.

Answer 3

ask him how he feels

Answer 4

You said "yes" to the proposal so now he's relaxing. He doesn't have to be "on" all the time to try to win you over. He's won and you're his.

But not just yet.

He's making a classic mars/venus mistake in thinking that he doesn't have to work for you anymore. That's just not true. That's how relationships get rocky and sometimes break up over misunderstandings. He doesn't get it... you said "yes," you want to get married and now he doesn't understand why you're not happy. It's because he stopped "courting" you and doing all the things that made you happy to want to see him.

What to do... what to do... This may sound opposite, but it works. Be a little less available when he wants to see you. Make him miss you. When he starts to complain that he doesn't see you enough, then you sit down for a talk and say how you feel and how it makes you feel when he does X, Y, and Z. Don't blame him... explain how his action X makes *you* feel. Then ask him what he thinks should be done about it. (Men love to fix things - let him come up a solution to fix this.)

This sort of thing happens in all relationships at some point. It doesn't mean he loves you less; it just means he knows he has you and doesn't need to sweat so much.

I would suggest you get some of the Mars/Venus books by John Gray. They're really so helpful in understanding what men (and women!) do and how to respond to them.

Hope this is helpful!

Answer 5

If he didnt love you then I dont think he would have asked you to marry him.

Answer 6

hi,

i think u shud really tyalk to him and tellhim that your ready to listen to anything he has to say .. but make sure he is honest as your life depends on it...tk cr  

Answer 7

Talk to him.. tell him how you feel and then ask him how he feels. If you can't talk to him now, you shouldn't be together.