Recently i have just found out i'm not the biological father to my twin boys.?

Question

How do i go about removing my name from the birth certificatre?Should a solicitor be involved?

Answer 1

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must be upsetting

.yesssss!

-Sorry, you must be upset xx

Answer 2

I have to agree with Violet, get out now if you have no intention on being in the boys or their moms life.  Unfortunately, I know all to well of your situation and my heart goes out to you.  Honestly, I think you would be better off cutting all ties unless you have more kids with this chick, even still you do not need to associate with her to take care of them.  If not, RUN!!!!

Answer 3

just cos ur not the biological father doesnt mean your not their daddy :) You must have bonded with them, cos u call them urs, are u sure its what u want to do? cos if u dont stay on the birth certificate then you dont have a say in thier upbringing, like you wont be able to make decisions about thier medical care etc.

Answer 4

No don't remove your name from their birth certificate, you are their dad.  Their sperm donor doesn't care for them and love them like you do.  

Theres a lot more to being a dad than donating the sperm.  And so what if their mother is a lying slag, you're still their dad and they'll still love you as such.  Its not their fault that their mother is a cheating worthless tart - any woman who can do that to a man is just totally reprehensible in my eyes.  They need you.

I daresay the sperm donor (I won't say "father" because all he did was impregnate their mother, and that doesn't make you a father) doesn't want to know anyway.  Be there for your little boys, they need their DADDY.

Answer 5

I would first contact the births, deaths and marriages office where you registered the birth and ask for their advice.

Are you sure you want to remove it? You may change your mind in the future if the twins are still going to be in your life.

Answer 6

first of all I am truly sorry. I'd hire a lawyer

Answer 7

I don't blame you for wanting to be removed from the Birth Certificate. If the mother wants you to be in their life and you want to be then you should be. You can still be their dad just not on paper. When they grow up they will have to understand. Its not like you have to tell them now that you're not their DNA donor. If I were them and I found out that you were listed on my Birth Certificate but you were not my natural father I'd be a bit upset. Then their anger that should be towards the mother might be turned to you.

Answer 8

wow, ring you councils birth a death department, anyway if your going to stick with them the long birth certificate does not ask for the biological father so really if your going to be the physical father figure just leave it as it is............

Answer 9

That sucks, my best friend is going through the same thing right now. He has to get a lawyer and have forms completed to bastardize the child. Different states may have different laws.

Answer 10

they will be psychologically mess up what it will become of them the mother is to blame not them

Answer 11

I have heard of parental rights being rewarded in  your situation. If you wish to stay a part of their lives, then fight for it. You would pay child support, but if you want to be with them wouldn't it be worth it?

Ask a lawyer & see what rights you have, you may be surprised!

good luck

Answer 12

If you were having s*x with thier mum at the time, do not trust what she says... she could be saying it to hurt you.... and i guess it works.    Before taking any rash decisions... get it confirmed with a DNA test first.

Answer 13

My parents had to go to court when my Dad found out that my little brother wasn't his, totally tore our family a part.

Later my Dad regretted giving up his parental rights because we had problems with my brothers biological father, so be sure this is what you want because it's hard to change it back.

I'm sorry this happened to you and the boys.

To answer your question it is best to involve a solicitor or someone in this process. Calling the place where you received the boys' birth certificate's is also a good way to go.

Answer 14

Well, being that they are only 6 months old, now is the time to get out if you are going to do so. Don't wait for them to get old enough to remember you and get super attached before you abandon them. I could not imagine doing that to a man or my children. She's one waste of skin. Good luck to you, and especially those poor little boys.

Answer 15

If you ring the registry office they were registered at and explain the situation they will be abl to advise you on the best course of action to take. As long as the mother doesn't dispute the claim it shouldn't be too problematic.

Answer 16

A  father is not the sperm thats makes a child its the hugs and kisses its the first smile and the first da da if you love these boys it doesnt matter . Another man might be the father but your their daddy

Answer 17

you should choke the **** out of her until u stop breathing

Answer 18

First of all you cant you are legally their father;the only way your name could be removed is if their biological father wanted to be named on the birth certificate.

  I have to ask thou why would you want your name removed,those boys see you as their father,and you have seen them as your sons.The only thing that has changed is they are not your blood,but aren't they your  heart?

Answer 19

Maybe the mother has lied, cheated and been a total *****, But you have brought those children up for 6months, They are your babies, Biological or not.

They have done nothing to deserve all this in their lifes, Like you said you love them with all your heart, So why remove your name, Be a daddy to them, Because thats what you are, Their daddy.

Miss Terry, i couldnt have said it better myself!

This is a sad situation, But dont think about how hurt you are because of what their mother has done, Think of those babies needing their dad.

Answer 20

I understand your anger. Anyone in your place would feel it together with sadness and shame.

But.

Do you love the boys??

Do you believe that the boys have any guilt in this?

Do they deserve to be punished for their mother's actions?

Make and answer these questions to yourself and then think about the birth certificate and the solicitor.

Answer 21

I am so sorry to hear to about this i cant imagine the pain you must feel right now. Firstly with regards to the birth certificate, a birth certificate is a legal document and i am not entirely sure as to wether your name can be removed but i would recommend going to a solicitor that deals in family affairs and they will offer you some guidance on that front.

Secondly, this is NOT the twins fault. Don't abandon them simply because you are not their biological father, you have been around them since birth so you owe it to them to at least be around for them, even if it wont be everyday.

As for the mum of the twins, it was wrong on her part to say you were the day before getting any proof but she might have had some logical reason behind it. You need to talk to her and ask her why she lied to you, if she simply shrugs you off and says something like 'you where there at the time' then get rid of her, but if her reason is serious then give her the benefit of the doubt. I wouldn't recommend staying with her but at least give her some common ground for the twins sake

Answer 22

You might not be the biological father, but are you their DAD?

If so nothing else matters.

If not, then they will be better off with out you.

Answer 23

If you are not the biological father, and you want to take your name off the birth certificate, then they are not your "my twin boys" any longer, are they?  

This question belongs in the legal forum, if you just want legal advice.   If you want parenting advice, then I would have to ask how old are the boys?  If you have believed that you were their father for years, and acted as if you were their father all that time, then they are "my twin boys" to you, and to them, you are their father.  It would be very cruel for you to just walk away from them.  You don't provide any information about the mother.  Perhaps you have no choice in the matter.  But if you do, I can't help but wonder why you would willingly give up your twin boys, even if they aren't biologically yours.

Answer 24

Your all heart eh?

I take it you didn't love the boys?

Your upset now & quite rightly but it's not their fault, they didn't ask for this. Wether you are their father or not i think you have loved them & bonded - you are a bigger part of their life than the donor.