RedWine needs help this time ..!?

Question

What would you do if your live in nanny was making international calls during her working hours without ur permission ?

she is allowed to use the phone to call the Philippines and i dont ask her to pay her bill bcoz she is taking a good care of my 9 months baby ,but when i was checking my mobile LOG today I've noticed that she's making calls during my absence and she delete the history from the dialled option on the phone ! she denied when i asked her when am sure about it .. she lied to me !

What should I say to her? i feel she is not honest , i want to let her go , am afraid give her the baby i dont trust her anymore

Serious responses only please.

Answer 1

eww...tricky situation that has to be uncomfortable and frightening.  I'm sorry you have to deal w/ this =(  I think you'r the only one who has a true feel for the situation and I wouldn't know what to do if I were in your shoes.  I would get a family member I trust/close friend to watch the baby now that you've confronted her.  also definitely get a nanny cam.

Answer 2

If you don't trust her anymore, that means it's uncomfortable situation even if she is honest or not. In cases of infants, I think it's a very difficult situation that leads to a nanny to take care of the infant, otherwise you better let her go and keep good care of your baby yourself.

As for the phone calls; If this is the only thing that you find she lied about, there may be misunderstanding. In some countries or networks the int'l calls trials may be counted after certain time of ringing. May be she tried and she didn't know that it was counted as a call. May be she forgot about her calls or something else. I think if she is fine in everything else, you better give her a chance and tests of her honesty. If she failed again in the honesty test, she deserves to go immediately. If you find her honest keep her and keep watching her.

In general it's not nice to trust people over 90% as we are all humans. Either we make mistakes on purpose or without purpose.

Good luck

Answer 3

i would use the barring option which restricts the phone calls to certain telephone numbers.

or i would not let my mobile phone with her.

or i would let my mobile phone with her but would come with her with certain understanding like; when the telephone bill comes, you'll pay 70% or 80% or whatever and i ll pay the rest..

or you can let her go and start over with someone new!

Good luck Redwine!

Answer 4

Quite a tricky situation...

Life doesn't always give second chance - rarely, actually. However, if ur REALLY attached 2 her, u can always talk it out. "U lied 2 me, but i know exactly wut u did. I'm willing to give u a second chance because u've proven faithful. If u need somethin though, let me kno & i'd be more than happy to help u out, or find a solution" in a calm, firm-yet-friendly tone. Lettin her know she can trust u, but that her job's on the line.

& if THAT doesn't work... buh-bye nanny =)

(if she lies about something so insignificantly small, imagine what else [potentially dangerous] she can lie about in the future)

( what does this have to do with Egypt, by the way? =P )

Answer 5

Well Redwine , first impressions and decisions are almost always right . dismiss her , and do not regret this.

you don't have to explain to her , just give her the salary and thank her.

Answer 6

get a new nanny

duh

Answer 7

Just forgive her and ask her to come to you directly if she needs anything.

Show her the log. Let her know that you know. Then tell her that you trust her because she takes good care of your baby. Then tell her to come to you directly for help.