Refering to my first question?

Question

I know many don't think I should seperate the twins, but when it's absolutely necessary, will a open adoption be a better option for one of the twin?

Answer 1

Just to verify you are talking about raising one and placing the other, right? I really think that would be a horrible idea for you and your children. The one will always wonder why you chose to give him or her up and the other may feel guilt at being "kept". I really think it's a recipe for emotional disaster.

I don't think you are giving yourself enough credit. You are only 10 weeks, you have a lot of time to prepare. Please don't set yourself up for failure already. Do you have any family that will help you through this?

Answer 2

An open adoption would allow you to be honest with the daughter you have chosen to raise, and allow you some contact.  However, depending on what the adoptive family wants, you may open up more of a can of worms if they do not allow contact with your family.  You have a tough decision ahead of you.  I would highly recommend talking to someone at an adoption agency to get some more information about how these things are handled.  They will most likely have experience with these things.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Of course.  I'd still advise placing them together, but if you do find it unavoidable to separate the twins, make an arrangement that will allow them to remain in contact.  

I recently read about two American families who adopted girls from China, and when they met in an adoptive families support group they discovered the children were twins.  They made arrangements to meet often and the girls are growing up as close friends.