Regarding my first question? Please I really need help?

Question

Because I only got the computer on Monday, and Corey asked to use Monday night to use it really quick, so I gave him the password. No problems then. Tuesday rolls by, and I fell asleep that night early. When I wake up this morning to start my coursework online, I notice that ALL of my history is deleted from before. I know that Corey looks at p**n because he accidentally left sights on the address bar history, and their history is constantly being deleted. My sister hasn't any idea about what he does because she can be an airhead. And I've also found traces for p**n sights on my parents computer more than once.

I don't give a d**n if he does it on his computer, and I let it go when I found it on my parent's, but this is my PRIVATE and new computer that he got on without permission and hid his whereabouts on my internet. It was rude and VERY inconsiderate.

How can I really confront him? Maybe I should embarrass him. I've hated keeping this from my sister, but I didn't want to pull yet another string of this shreaded marriage. The only reason they are still together is because they have two kids. This feels like the last straw to me, but I would hate myself forever if I ruined their marriage and condemned my sister to being a single mom, because he would just leave.

Please, what do I do?

Answer 1

Is a computer that wasn't harmed worth tearing your sisters marriage up? I think you need to let it go. Next time don't let him use your computer if it bothers you that he looks at p**n. And, not to be rude but he ASKED, and then you let him use it.. so how he doing it without permission since you even gave him the password?

It's not hard to lock your computer up in your room when your not using it.. or, better yet, move out if you don't like your brother in law. Just leave it be, and let your sister have her husband and her kids have their father. Don't bust him out to her just because your undies are in a twist over something you KNEW he would do as you GAVE him permission to use your computer, KNOWING he likes p**n.

That to me is far more rude and inconsiderate than anything.

Really, think of the kids, and not yourself or your computer. Let it go. Learn from your mistake of letting him use it, and don't repeat it again. Change the password too, he can't get on without knowing it.

**You obviously didn't read MY answer carefully, as I DIDN'T call you rude, I said that destroying their marriage over a computer would be rude. Get it straight. Till now, I thought you were perhaps high strung, wound a bit too tight. Now though your response does show a rudeness about you.

Answer 2

Ummm, if the relationship is this fragile, you won't be responsible for any break up and perhaps they should break up.

On the computer/p**n topic.

It is very simple to solve. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT give your password to ANYONE for any reason if you want to keep your computer system intact.

Simply say... "NO, go to the library if you need to use a computer so badly but mine is OFF LIMITS!"

Don't forget to change your password to something that CAN NOT be quessed by the people that know you.

Good luck.

Steve

Answer 3

I agree with "yo", unless you're not comfortable lying.  You'll probably end up needing a technician anyway, because it's that easy to get a virus from those sights.  It's a brand new computer, so that should be reason enough to tell, not ask, him not to use it.  Your sister may be on to him, but doesn't care or want to deal with it.  Who knows?  But, the least you can do is take care of your own things.  That's a big investment to have him playing his games with.  Good Luck!  

Answer 4

Dont straight go to your sister, i mean you care about the family a lot, go to him personally and tell him whats bugging you, if he is a good man he will understand you, seriously , don't stress it. just talk it out, and if he still doesn't understand then talk to your sister

Answer 5

tell him you got a virus and the tecnician told you it was because of a dangerous site

n dont let him touch your stuff again! buy some magazines for god sake! :]

Answer 6

Set a new password for you computer and refuse to give it to anyone else. If he asks to use it then tell him no because you don't want anyone using it to look at p**n on it. He blew it big time on this one. If he gives you a hard time about it, tell him you are going to tell your sister.

Don't even give the password to your sister. You can set your user as  password protected and set another user up with blocks on it that prevent anyone from accessing p**n. It will also block some good sites so you only want to block the second user.

If he is really that big a loser, and not just because of the p**n, your sister might be better off without him. She deserves a happy marriage and the kids deserve a peaceful home.