A question for bisexuals...?

Question

I was with my three friends the other day, and apparently they are all bisexual(except for me, im not quite sure about everything right now... but lets not get into that.) Anyway, two of them thought that is is fine to date a boy and a girl at the same time, but not okay to date two boys, or two girls, ect.. I think it's completely ridiculous, i mean, if you love someone then you can't date someone else at the same time, right? Im not sure if they really are bi or if its just because in my group of friends its "cool" or what. They both prefer guys over girls but have made out with other girls and whatnot... I just don't fully understand this..

Answer 1

Sounds more like bisexual mixed with polyamorous. So yeah, theres polyamorous ones who dont confine dating to just one couple. They are open to having more than one partner at any given time, and they may have plenty of personal preferences as to how many partners of what genders and maybe keep one partner as the 'preferred' love. It does get complicated and i still dont understand polyamory that well, i agree with you about just dating & loving one person works for me. But in terms of mixing it up with 2 boys or a boy and a girl, I think that again falls back on their sexual orientation, and they could be dating a half dozen boys and a dozen girls for all anyone cares, right.  

Answer 2

if they think that, then they aren't bi.

if ur bi, then you believe that it doesn't matter what gender ur lover is.

if you date a girl and boy at the same time, it's the same thing as dating a boy and another boy at the same time, coz in a bis point of view, there no dif between girl to girl love and girl to boy love.

Answer 3

Any and all combinations of partners is ok as long as everyone concerned agrees. Some people prefer to stay with one person, some of us are polyamorous. Love is a wondrous thing in all it's forms so long as no one is getting hurt. However, you may be right about them saying they are Bi simply because they think it is cool. I saw a lot of this among highschool girls.

Answer 4

I'm not bi, but g*y, but have always thought it must be hard to be bi because, if you are in a relationship, you will continually want s*x with the opposite gender to your partner's, and without it you'll feel frustrated, and I guess that's why your bi friends said this. However a relationship is a relationship, and you should never cheat unless your relationship is open, in which case it isn't cheating anyway.

Answer 5

Personally I don't agree with that at all; being bisexual doesn't give you the right to see two people at the same time without consequences. If everyone's happy, whatever floats your boat, but to me it's saying that neither of the people you're going out with is quite enough for you.

It tends to depend on whether you see men and women as giving you something different in a relationship, or if you see men and women as being able to give you the same, though different, things.

I see it like if I fall in love with a guy, I fall in love with a guy, and if I fall in love with a girl, I fall in love with a girl, but I'm then not going to spend all my time wondering if I'm missing out on anything. That's stupid. Non-bisexuals don't spend all their time wondering if they're missing out on someone else, do they?

Answer 6

well if you think about it dating someone is really to see if they are going to be a good marriage partner. So why shouldn't you be able to go for someone better or date two to see who you like better? Just a thought. I really have no opinion on the subject.

Answer 7

They sound like posers to me.

becuz I am bi and alot of people I know are bi and they do not think like that and I do not think that.

I mean dating 2 people at the same time is cheating.

Answer 8

I'm bi and i think thats bullcr@p