A question to the vegetarians!?

Question

i have been vegetarian all my life, and i have been living with my boyfriend for the last year. he is a heavy meat eater, and what bothers me is all his steak and stuff being used on the pots and pans and everything! i have brought it up once and he sorta just dismissed it and of course doesnt see the big deal. how can i fix this? whats a good comprimise? i dont want to talk to him about it properly until i have a valid argument and solution. any of you had this problem before? im 19 and he is 21 by the way, thank you muchly!

Answer 1

What I suggest is, talk to him without any kind of hesitation. Let him know what you feel. Don't make a mess of your words while talking to him. Go straight. Tell him that you don't feel right when he cooks in the same vessels in which you cook.

Don't feel shy. Buying a new set won't be a solution as he might think that you have started to live your own way.  

Answer 2

Have a set for each of you...one for him, one for you.....maybe lock your set up if he chooses not to bother

Answer 3

Buy new pots and pans. A set for him, and a set for you. DONE!

Answer 4

I agree with everyone who says to buy new pots and pans. Talk to him about it first, and if he loves u surely he wont mind. and u can just get a basic set so u can cook ur meals, less than $100. and when you buy a new set, just make sure urs all match and are different to his. like if he has black pots and ans, get urs white.  :)

Answer 5

Time for a new set all for yourself.

Answer 6

When you approach, tell him you are really bothered and you would like his input. Then tell him it what it is that really bothers you (it doesn't matter if it doesn't bother him because your feelings on this matter and should not be dismissed and if they are that's a bigger issue even than the dishes). Then ask him if he has any solutions.

Whether he does or not it's good if you already have some ideas. But don't ambush him either and if it gets heated say the conversation is getting uncomfortable and you'd like to continue it later (and suggest a time such as the next afternoon) when you've both had time to calm down and think it over.

You don't mention if the pots are yours, his, or belong to both of you. But, there does need to be a set for his meat and those that are for non-meat purposes should not be of lesser quality as that signifies worth which you don't want to get into either.

Not sure how bothered you are about the dishes or what a solution would be there.

But certainly there needs to be color coded utensils (like tongs) and cutting boards. Maybe even a different drawer for those and cabinets.

The fridge gets tricky. Even if you gave up the bottom shelf, meat juices can drip down into the produce drawers (depending on the set-up). Maybe special containers that seal...

I'd make him responsible for buying, preparing and cooking his flesh and cleaning up after himself. But at the same time I'd make him all the veggie food he would possibly want.

Good luck with this. Your unease is valid and okay.

Answer 7

You need to buy yourself a new set of pans.