ADVICE PLEASE...ANY0NE?...

Question

IN JANUARY I MET THIS B0Y...HE WAS PERFECT IN MY EYES SMART,SWEET,FUNNY,CUTE,DRESSED NICELY,AND KNEW WHAT HE WANTED TO D0 WITH HIS LIFE...IT WAS 0NLY 0NE BAD THING AB0UT HIM...HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND[A GIRL THAT I ASS0CIATE WITH FR0M TIME T0 TIME,BUT HE DIDNT KN0W THAT]...S0 WHEN MY FRIEND ASKED ME DID I WANT TO TALK T0 HIM,I SAID N0,HE MIGHT BE WHAT ANY GIRL W0ULD L0VE T0 HAVE,BUT HE G0T A GIRL AND THAT W0ULD BE WR0NG IF I TALK T0 HIM 0N THE SIDE AND I KN0W SHE L0VES HIM...BUT MY FRIEND REALLY C0NVINCED ME THAT IT W0ULD BE THE RIGHT THING T0 D0 AND THAT I SH0ULD JUST BE FRIENDS WITH HIM S0 I WAS LIKE 0KAY...I'LL TALK T0 HIM...WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS AND G0T REALLY CL0SE T00 FAST...IT WAS T0 THE P0INT WHERE HE W0ULD BE THE 0NLY PERS0N I W0ULD TALK 0R TEXT 0N MY PH0NE...AND ONE DAY WE HUNG 0UT AND THINGS STARTED T0 M0VE IN THE DIRECTION 0F s*x BUT I SAID "N0,I D0NT WANT T0" AND HE WAS LIKE 0KAY...WE WAS STILL C00L AFTER THAT AND I LIKED THE FACT HE DIDNT PULL AWAY FR0M ME EVEN TH0UGH I SAID N0 AND WHENEVER I NEEDED S0ME ADVICE 0R NEEDED S0MEB0DY T0 TALK T0 HE W0ULD STILL BE THERE AND GIVE ME S0ME...SH0WING ME THAT HE CARED...AND I FELL IN L0VE WITH HIM...N0W I REALLY D0N'T KN0W WHAT T0 D0 BECAUSE HIM AND HIS GIRLFRIEND ARE TRYING T0 W0RK 0N THEIR R0CKY RELATI0NSHIP AND I CAN'T HELP BUT T0 FEEL THAT HE SH0ULD BE WITH ME AND I REGRET SAYING N0 T0 HIM THAT DAY WHEN WE WERE G0ING T0 HAVE s*x BECAUSE I WANT HIM S0 BAD N0W[AND N0T JUST IN A SEXUAL WAY] I ALS0 FIND MYSELF SAYING THAT I D0N'T LIKE HIS GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE IN MY EYES I SEE THAT HE C0ULD HAVE S0 MUCH BETTER ,BUT I KNEW WHAT I WAS GETTING MYSELF INT0 IN THE BEGGINING...S0 I REALLY WANT T0 KN0W SH0ULD I JUST PULL AWAY FR0M THE FIRST B0Y THAT I HAVE EVER L0VED?WAS I WR0NG T0 TALK T0 MY ASS0CIATE B0YFRIEND?SH0ULD I LET HIM KN0W I L0VE HIM?...WHAT SH0ULD I D0?...AND PLEASE GIVE ME S0ME G00D ADVICE BECAUSE IM S0 C0NFUSED RIGHT N0W

Answer 1

Give it some time to see if his current relationship lasts if it doesn't then feel free to share your feelings with him,that way you will have no regrets.And she wont be able to blame you for anything

Answer 2

   Girl If you know better and if you have DIGNITY to your self you will respect the men who already taken and please give respect to other women who have a boyfriend. You will have your own just wait and you will have it just spare that guy because HE ALREADY BEEN TAKEN!!

Okey? just give your self a little bet respect! Be a good Christian and be A GOOG LIITL GIRL! BEHAVE AND FIND YOUR OWN BOYFRIEND!

          THE LESSON FOR TODAY IS "RESPECT YOUR SELF!"

Answer 3

You must use your head before your heart or you will be really hurt.

He has shown interest but nothing more.  He has not left his girlfriend, or asked you out much.  He has talked to you a lot, but this is not enough.  He could be really serious with her, and still writing you!  

The advice I would give you is to not have s*x with him and not to tell him that you love him.  Men like a challenge.  It is in their nature. When you tell him that you love him before he tells you, more times than not he will flee like you have the plague!  Also, I do not believe in pre marital s*x.  Don't let him take advantage of you in that way.  He will not respect you, and 95 times out of a 100 he will not marry you.

If you had a daughter would you tell her to sleep with him?

The smart girl will find several boys to date at the same time and not get serious with one until she is ready to get married.  That way you can see what kind of a man you really need and like.  You can also compare between the men you are dating to see which one is best for you.  It takes time for a persons true nature to show itself.  You must get to know a person in all different situations and under stress.

You sound fairly young, and sometimes it is hard when it is your first love to be rational and not let your emotions take over.  Please try to though, for you will save yourself a lot of heart ache in the end.