Abortion? But still pregnant help.?

Question

Hi, Im just wondering what my brother in law should do.

He was going out with a girl for 4 months 8 months ago, she said she was pregnant, but hard to belive her as she apparently wasnt right in the head as he brothers told us. We found out she was actually pregnant from her mum and told us as she was like that she was to get an abortion, this was all booked and we seen the flight booking, they broke up a few days after when she had told him she went through with the abortion. Only thing is we havent spoke to the family since and recently saw her she had a massive bump and is ready to drop any day. If they try to get csa payments were would he stand and also with access. He is denying the child as he was told it was aborted. any ideas

please help

thanks

xx

Answer 1

I'm holding my tongue very hard to try not to pass judgment on your brother.  

I am sure that his ex-girlfriend said she was getting the abortion and actually had the plans to go through with it.  It's a very hard decision and a very hard process to go through (mentally) she probably changed her mind when she got there, or before.  Which she has the right to do.

I am also sure she didn't tell your brother for her own personal reasons and probably plans to raise this child without him.

If she decides to go after him for child support, then yes, he has an obligation to his child.  He can request a paternity test to prove that it is his if she decides to bring this action.  But yes, if it is his, he has an obligation to this child and the Courts will rule in the order of his payment to support his child.

Answer 2

No.....they will determine paternity..if this is his child...he has to stand upand take the responsiblities...he plays he pays...

thats just the way it is...alot of girls think they will get abortion and change their mind...maybe she was scard....and became to know she was going to keep the child...

Either way I support her for not aborting...

But if she was so messed up as he claims, why would he even mess with her..at all

Either way just make sure he gets paternity at the birth...So that way he knows for sure.

He should not sign the birth certificate..at all...until he gets the results...

if he signs...hes taking the responsiblities and will have to pay support the enitire 18yrs of that childs life....

I know this becuz my dad did that with my sister...signed...1 week later found it wasnt his...he was screwed....

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GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

he needs to get a DNA test and don't sign the birth certificate. i have never been in this situation but my fiancee was. now if he signs the birth certificate then he is screwed for 18 years if they say she is crazy then u never no he may not be the father but if it turns out that he is then he needs to help and everything should be fine

Answer 4

Since he was informed an abortion occured and therefore to his knowledge he is not going to be a father, he needs to request a DNA test as soon as the baby is born regardless of whether she tries to get CSA payments or not.  Both he and the child needs to know if he is the father or not.  If he is the father, he needs to face up to his responsiblities and pay CSA and get legal advice to gain access to the child.

Answer 5

If he is the father then he will still be liable for maintaining the child- doesn't matter if he was told she aborted, doesn't matter if he doesn't want it- it is his kid and if he didn't want to find himself a father he should have taken responsibility for contraception not leaving up to the woman-

sorry he finds himself in this predicament but really it is his own doing....

Answer 6

First of all before you start running her down, he chose to get her pregnant when he put his p***s in her.  Even with protection normal rational adults know that a pregnancy can occur.  And you don't have s*x with people that you can't stand if you don't want something like this to happen.

And this jerk cannot force anyone to have an abortion.  But once the child is here he has to pay child support if it is his kid.  If he doesn't like it, tell him to use his hand.  He can't make babies that way.

As far as custody do you think they are gonna give him much visitation after he b*****s that he has to pay child support because she shoulda followed through and aborted it?  Do you not see the flaw in that?  He will probably get every other weekend and every other holiday.  

And if he does finally man up and be there for the kid, one day the kid is gonna find out how he denied it and they are gonna hate him.

Answer 7

Just get a DNA test as soon as the child is born, ur brother in law must b going through alot, thinking hes gona be a dad an then thinking hes not an now thinking he could be any day :( good luck

Answer 8

well, think of this, they only dated 4 months. they barely know each other. and shes going to his kids mom! think how that will work out! have you seen juno? they could give it up. but that would be hard. well it depends on how good a mom she is.