Abusive Realtionship

Question

I need a site or something that will

tell me about abusive realtionships.

I don't know exactly whats going on

with my boyfriend. But he's been getting

a little rough with me when he gets mad at

me.. I don't know if it's on purpose but it seems like it.

And I need to know if this is rape: He starts taking

off my clothes and I say I don't want to but he says

just relax and I go along with it and let him do whatever

and I do what he wants. But he's not forcing me..

I just do it so he doesn't get mad at me..

Answer 1

WHOA! You're only 15 and dealing with this?

Girl, you have only been with him for FOUR months.

PLEASE get out.

YES, he is being rough with you ON PURPOSE, trying to scare you into staying with him.

If you don't get out now, I foresee very bad things in the future.

Break up with him and talk to someone you can trust (parent, friend, mentor, confidant) but trust me... if you stay with him, it will NOT end well.

Answer 2

that's force and i think his testing u if u can take it.don't prolong it.make it end now before it gets worse.

Answer 3

Yea- thats pretty much rape. You should never be afraid to do or say anything when you are in a relationship. He is pretty much MAKING you do this. If he is getting a little " rough".. & you notice you're not ok with it-- what do you think this means? You should never deal with anything in a relationship that you are not ok with. You need to tell him how you feel-- and tell him to stop whatever it is you dont like. if it continues.. then ask yourself how much longer you are going to deal with it. I dont know how old you are.. but you have to love yourself first-- and put your foot down. You deserve the best- and nothing less. Good Luck.

Answer 4

1 AVOID him.

I'm sure further postings will have sites to go to but you need to NOT be @ him.

Answer 5

You are very articulate for 15 , and I would say pretty intelligent . So take the knowledge you learn from this site and other's posted , and run with it !

Answer 6

this is an abusive relationship. yeah, he may not be forcing you, but you're scared of what he may do to you if you do not let him have s*x with you. thats sexual abuse on his part. he's scaring you into having s*x with him. please talk to a trusted friend or a trusted adult. honestly, something needs to be done. have you consdiered talking to his parents about it? just avoid him.. things could get worse. if you're scared of him, tell him you do not want to be with him anymore. please get help before things get worse.

email me if you want someone to talk to about this.

i'll try and help best i can.

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Answer 7

Get out. Get away from him ASAP. PLEASE. It will only get worse from here. The longer you stay with him, the harder it will be for you to leave him. There is absolutely no need to talk to him about it. You are not safe in this relationship and that is all the reason you need to get out of it. Make sure you tell somebody close to you about what he's been doing. SERIOUSLY, this is nothing to play around with. He is going to try to manipulate you to think that no other guy will want you, and if he hasn't already, he's gonna try to isolate you from your family and friends.  

Answer 8

I think that you should leave him. I know you probably don't want to but it is the safest thing for you. This kid is to young to be abusing you. Your sister should help you out. Please google abusive relationships. You guys have just been going out for four months and he is already being rough. It is not worth it I know your family loves you. If you need someone to talk to please email me at [e-mail] Please get out now while you can. Just imagine if you have a child with him he will feel like he owns you and he doesn't you have a right to want better. Please don't get yourself into something that with time will ONLY get worse... Please email me if you need someone to talk to and be careful. Talk to him and let him know how you feel when he does this to you. If he doesn't change then you need to get out ASAP.. God bless you and please make the right decision...

Answer 9

Just google abusive relationships.

And that is forcing you, if you say you don't want to than you give in.

Don't give in! STAY AWAY FROM HIM before he starts tp really HURT you.

Answer 10

whoa hun that's not ok for him to do that to you, i'm not sure it's rape if you done it just so he won't get mad but he is mentally abusing you. please please please get help or this situation could get worse until he really hurts you or does rape you i don't no any site by google it your bound to find something do you have anyone you can talk to? please don't continue like this everyone deserves to be happy and your obviously not talk to me if you like it's sometimes easier when it's someone you dont no my address is on my profile.

whatever you choose to do i wish you all the luck in the world. x

Answer 11

Quick and simple answer : get away from this guy.

Physical violence and forced s*x are not good signs - and it will probably get worse.

Find a friend, teacher or doctor you can trust, and ask their help.

Don`t hesitate - because this will only get worse.

Best of luck,

Answer 12

what is going on now is only going to get worse in the future if you keep putting up with it. right now he is only testing the waters but once he sees that you are accepting it he will take it further and it will get to the point to where you are afraid to leave him because you will be afraid of what he will do to you. get out while you can and don't let him suck you in. a person deserves way better than that and don't let him make you believe that you don't. good luck!