Adoptees: how are your adoptive parents?

Question

do you feel they 'bought you' or really care for you? why did they 'get you' in the first place?

Answer 1

My adoptive parents had 2 children of their own - then adopted me.

They really did care for me - but later I had a step father (my a-father died) and he liked to make me feel as if I should be grateful for being adopted - as if I had been bought - and saved from a fate 'worse than death'.

In reality - my biological parents married just 6 months after my birth - and went on to have 3 more kids. They were pressured into relinquishing me - simply because they were unwed at the time.

My adoptive parents main 'faults' - they would not let me talk about my biological family - & they would not allow me to ask questions. I was made to feel as though I was being unfaithful to them - simply because I wanted to know where I came from.

In reality - they should have had more faith in their parenting skills & in their love for me - and they should of encouraged my natural curiosity for the part of me that is 'nature'.

Answer 2

I was adopted by mother's new husband. And it was horrible. I felt like I was there to be the punching bag, the one who had all the responsiblities when "his" biological children were born. No, I never felt he cared for me at all. He was mean and hateful, and when he died 12 yrs ago, I was left out of his will because I was not a "natural" child. Talk about a blow!

Answer 3

My adoptive parents love me as if I were there own flesh and blood. They were unable to concieve so they adopted me from a young woman who was not ready to be a mother, let alone a single mother.

I can't imagine anyone who is adopted thinking they were "bought"...  but maybe there are some people like that somewhere... that's a terrible shame.

Answer 4

I can't imagine my life without my parents. They are my best friends and the most important people in my life.

When I hurt, they hurt. When I'm in pain, they're in pain. When I'm happy, they're happy. When someone messes with me, my dad wants to go after them. lol.

There's no words out there that could describe my relationship with my parents. It was like I was born for them. The 3 of us are such a close family, and we've been through A LOT together.

I've known since the day I came home (at 3 days old) I was adopted, and it was important for them for me to know early on, since my mother cannot physically have children, and all she wanted since she got married was a child.

I can't picture my life without them. I would be totally lost.

Answer 5

well im going through the process nowe and no i dpont think they bought me and they love me like a normal parent and i love them however im not going to answer how

Answer 6

well my adoptive parents didnt buy me because I came out of the care system but i dont really consider them my parents because they were incredibly selfish and abusive.

As far as I can see they got us because they wanted people to think they were good people helping out the charity cases

Answer 7

In no way would I ever feel that my adoptive parents "bought me". They are the two most loveing and giving people that I could have ever had as parents. In all of my 21 years I have never felt like I was an outsider in the family or that I was any different then anyone else. My adoptive parents still to this day continue to give me all that I need to become a successful person and to make them proud. I was adopted from within my family because my biological mother was unfit to take care of me. She had some cognitive issues (she was slow) and couldent provide for me.

Answer 8

I loved my adoptive parents and still do-they adopted me when I was 6mos. old. They are my true parents, because anyone can have a child, but not everyone can be a parent. Unfortunately, they have both died, and I am left with a lot of unanswered questions. But one thing I do know, is that the love that a parent has for a child is a strong bond and can never be broken, adopted or not.

Answer 9

my parents REALLY care for me, and i love them too. It doesn't change the fact that they bought me. They got me to have a child that they couldn't have naturally on their own. They definately weren't prepared for the extra issues adoptees come with, but they validate that for me now and we get along great!

when money is exchanged for the the delivery of an infant, no matter how much they must love us and usually do, we have still been bought. Their LOVE for us doesn't take that away. Its just a face.

Answer 10

My adoptive parents are my parents and always will be.  I was lucky to be adopted i have met my bio family and wouldn't change a thing.

Answer 11

no offense, but that is a fairly ignorant question.

I was adopted and consider myself to be an incredibly fortunate man. No, i dont feel bought, my PARENTS could not concieve, so they adopted myself and my sibling