Adopting my wifes kids.?

Question

Can I adopt my wifes kids even though her ex-boyfriend is the biological father?

Answer 1

Yes you can ,if you get the permission of the father, or if he is not around to support the children and see them, but if you can't you could get a parental responsibility order this means that you have the right to take the children anywhere, and if there is an emergency and they need treatment you can sign for them, my husband has this for my children it is very handy to have as my children have asthma, but the order is taken of you if you and your partner split up, so she still has full rights to the children when you have split.

Answer 2

from my experience, (if the kids are young, less then 5yrs of age) you dont adopt, you just become that father figureand you just become the father.

Hard to explain, but you'll act just like a father, just not the daddy lol.

Answer 3

YES,IF YOUR WIFES EX WILL SIGNED PAPERS TO LET YOU ADOPTED THEM.OR IF HE IS A BAD FATHER,THEN YOU CAN TAKE HIS RIGHTS AWAY FROM HIM. IF THE KIDS ARE  OLDER THEN 14 THEY MAY BE ABLE TO TALK TO A JUDGE,AND TELL HIM THAT THEY WOULD LIKE TO BE ADOPTED BY YOU. TALK TO A LAWYER AND YOU CAN GET A LOT MORE ON THIS.

Answer 4

If he agrees and signs his parental rights over then you can adopt her children.  

What I had to do when my husband adopted my two children from my previous marriage was:

1. My ex-husband signed his parental rights away giving me full/soul custody.  

2. My new husband filed papers, through the same lawyer that I used to have my ex's rights terminated, asking for adoption of my two children (they were at the time 4 and 7).

3. We both had to have physicals (have no idea why I did) and a homestudy was done.

4.  The homestudy involved an outside person (not the judge or the lawyer) to come into our home and observe where we lived and how we interacted as a family).  

5.  An appointment was made with the judge for our case to be heard (was done in the judges office).  

When we were in the judges office he talked to the four of us and to the children asking them what they thought of my husband adopting them and having their names changed (the name change was their decision).  

After maybe 15 minutes in the office (45 minutes waiting to go in) all was said and done and my husband was granted the adoption and then we went out and celebrated!

We spent maybe a little over 1,000.00 but to all of us it was well worth it.  I still allowed my ex to have communication with the chidlren (as of now no more because of some things that have happened since his last visit).  

Hopefully if you really want to be their (I'm not saying father) daddy then things will go your way and you will get your wish.

Just remember that being a parent is a lot of responsibility and I am sure you will be great at it.

Answer 5

NO!! / unless / y get permission from the Father/ BUT  /make sure it is in writing / and notarized / god bless and good luck / or better yet  /check with the courts in your area

Answer 6

Yes. My husband just adopted my daughter. The biological father has to sign off. If he won't sign off or if you can not find him you can still adopt  IF he has had no contact (visits, phone calls, payment of child support) in a full year. If he does not sign off it takes much more time and money. But if you love those children and he is an absent or unfit father then it is worth it! Good luck!

Answer 7

Yes, go ahead if you really love her always remember accepting her kids is one of the fastest ways to get to her heart.

Answer 8

yes you can if the mother and father said it ok

Answer 9

The biological father would need to terminate his parental rights.  If he is a "dead beat" father who doesn't participate in their life, you MAY be able to get a judge to terminate his parental rights if he refuses to sign the paperwork.  However, the important thing to remember is that this is a legal proceeding and does require certain paperwork to be completed in order for it to be legal and official.  I would highly recommend contacting an attorney to get all of the necessary information.  You also should realize that if the bio-father terminates his parental rights, any type of child support, etc., will cease as he will no longer have any legal responsibility to the children.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Yes, if the biological father gives permission.

Answer 11

Yes, you definitely can once the biological father gives his agreement.

Answer 12

yes u can if the biological father gives up his rights to the mothr then u can adopt them in all terms...

Answer 13

yes if he gives up his right involuntarily or voluntarily

Answer 14

yes.... why not ask for legal advice.

Answer 15

Yes you can as long as he is willing to give up all of his parental rights or if he is considered unfit by the courts.

It is a process that takes some time, but not an extensive amount of money.  My husband did a step-parent adoption for my oldest daughter and her biological father was willing to let him adopt her.  It took about 6 months and cost us about 400 dollars and that included the birth certificate change and her name change as well as the court fees.

Good luck to you.

Answer 16

Yea, why not, if you love her, you'll be fine with the kids, take them as your own and love them as much, most of all, enjoy parenting!

Answer 17

Not unless he gives up his rights to them.  Come on man!  Think about it.  What if YOU had kids and the mother of your kids hated you.  The father has rights.  THANK GOD!

Answer 18

um... do u understand what adoption is? lol but anyways if she has custody of the kids then things should be fine and if her ex is a bad father or w,e just take it to the courts

Answer 19

Of course, and CONGRATULATIONS to you for standing up for them.  It takes a really big man to want to adopt his spouses children.

Different laws apply in different states, so check out your local laws.  Some states are easier to adopt in then others, but none are difficult.  Also, if the ex- is out of the picture or even out of contact, you might be able to get it done in as short a time as 45 days.

Again, good for you and congrats!!!!!

Answer 20

Yes if the biological father does not want the children and agrees to the adoption or is considered an unsuitable father, i.e abusive

Answer 21

Probably.  Consult an experienced adoption attorney to find out the specific rules of your state.  Each state is different with respect to the consent/notification of the biological father.  You may also need a 'stepparent screening,' which is a version of a home study performed by an adoption agency.  A note about choosing an adoption attorney; most lawyers know how to do an adoption, but it's definitely worth it to pay a little more for one who does them regularly and knows about all the legislative updates.  Don't be afraid to ask for consultations before settling on a lawyer.