Adoption? Or Abortion?

Question

I'm super stuck, I know its morally wrong to kill an unborn child. BUT on the other hand I have NO TIME to deal with being pregnant!! I know this is super selfish, I need some honest and NICE opinions. Please not harsh "Your a baby killer" comments.

Answer 1

Do you really know what they do in an abortion? First before you think about that go and investigate what they do to unborn child that gets aborted maybe it will make you think twice about abortion.. Why don't you look into adoption instead.. Yeah 9 months of having a belly and carrying around the baby but it would be better than having it aborted.. You really don't have to have do nothing different with pregnancy except go to Dr. visits and maybe no drinking or smoking.. Your life really doesn't change that much with having a baby in your belly.. Why don't you just have the baby and place it for adoption instead at least it would have a life and a happy one.. What would Jesus do? This is my opinion though you will do what you feel is right!!!!

Answer 2

This really is a decision that only you can make.  While I am personally against abortion, I am still pro-choice as I believe that it is a woman's right to decide what to do with her body and her unborn child.  Yes, I am an adoptive mother and am extremely grateful for the gift that I received, but I also believe that you as the bio-Mother need to make the choice that is best for you - and no one should have a right to tell you what to do.  

Saying that, I believe adoption can be a beautiful gift to a family who cannot have a child on their own.  My husband and I have been trying for more than 7 1/2 years to conceive, with no luck.  If we were not able to adopt our son, we would have gone childless - a feeling of loss that would have crippled our marriage.  

Good luck to you - whatever route you travel.

Answer 3

Adoption. If you had no time to be pregnant perhaps you shouldn’t have had s*x or taken immense precautions not to get pregnant.  Because your not a little girl (hopefully) you had to know that having s*x could result in a pregnancy.

Answer 4

I'm not sure where you are at?   but I will be more than willing to adopt your child.  My husband & I are un able to have children & we have already adopted a  little girl.  she is the love of our life!   we are in minnesota, let me know if you need some one to talk to!!  I'm always here.

Answer 5

many people have already answered the same as i would have said but i just wanted to say that giving a baby up at birth is a blessing to some couple... my husband and i desprately want another child... a baby.. but in our area all we are offered are children in their late teens... contact a local agancy and they can help you....

Answer 6

Look I was there before I was 19teen and had lot of plans ahead of me. I could not have an abortion even though that would have freed me up from the nice months of carrying the baby. But you know looking back those nine months were amazing and I grew up alot. My son was born in 1998 and I placed him in a very open adoption with loving parents who were ready to parent a child. I have since married and years later now hve my own family I know now I did the right thing I could not have been a great parent to him. Like yourself I stil was thinking about my dreams and plans. Best of luck believe in yourself first and think with your heart. These days if you want to go the adoption way you have control to pick and ask personal question dont let anyone tell you different.

Answer 7

well first of all I looked at your other questions and one of them said you were a guy that was wanting a s*x change....look hunny if your a guy I can tell you you don't have to worry about having "time" to be pregnant because your not!!!!

And there are serious people asking serious qestions on this site and people like you make it difficult for everyone.

Answer 8

Adoption, because my dad was adopted and there are many loving parents out their that would be willing to take care of your children. If you never gave a child the chance to smile how would you know how much they would miss life. My brother and sisters and their children would never have been here if she had not given him a chance. My dad is an engineer and he has saved many lives. Give your child a chance to live and if someday they come back to you just give them a hug and tell them you gave them a chance to live and you will be glad that you did.

Answer 9

Adoption so that your baby won't die and you will still do things that you want to do.

But please don't kill the baby, they have nothing to do with the rape or anything else that happened. It's not only wrong but it's stupid to do it and you won't want that happened to you too if you were in the babies shoes.

Adoption is better than Abortion

Answer 10

you know, i always thought if i got pregnant i would get an abortion b/c my life is on the fast track and i can't slow down to be pregnant, etc.

i am almost 20 weeks pregnant. honestly i never wanted to be pregnant and was all set to get an abortion, but i couldn't go through with it. so now i am going through with the pregnancy which is hard since of my situation, but nevertheless i am carrying this baby to term and giving a family a chance to have a son/daughter. yes, this is one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make... believe me i understand, but think to yourself, will you regret the decision you will make or will that decision be what is best for you and the baby?

please if you need to talk e-mail me, i am always looking to meet new friends - hehehe. and whatever you decide....good luck.

Answer 11

adoption - some little kid out there is waiting for a mommy =//.. go find that little kid and make him yours.. to have a child of your own, you dont always have to be pregnant you know XDD

ORR if you ever become pregnant.. you can give that child up for adoption instead of having it killed =//, choosing adoption over abortion can save a babie's life...

Answer 12

Honestly sweetie, not many people "have time" to be pregnant, but it's just something you deal with. I got pregnant at the worst time possible...I herniated 2 disks in my back, and I was trying hard to lose weight before I tried to get pregnant, and it just happened....and now, I'm 22 weeks pregnant, and I'm recovering from back surgery because they ruptured and I was having neurological problems. People had the audacity to yell at me for having surgery while pregnant, but I had NO choice...I was going to be paralyzed if I didn't do it now.

The moral of the story is...you have s*x, you get knocked up, you deal with it. Your baby doesn't deserve to be aborted because you chose to have unprotected s*x. Give the baby up for adoption..allow it to have a chance at life even if you aren't the one that's going to raise it. It at least deserves that much from you.

If you are going to have an abortion (and I'm in NO way suggesting that), please, do it as soon as possible. Don't waste time going back and forth, but just know that YOU'RE the one that will have to live with that decision the rest of your life.

Answer 13

Well, even my neighbour's six year old knows that MEN don't get pregnant.....

Which means if you're telling the truth in the above question, you must be LYING in this one;

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Given the sensitive nature of both these topics, do you really think it's fair to make a mockery of either?

Answer 14

It is not selfish if you don't want the responsiblity but  like the others you should really consider adoption.   With whatever decision you make you have to live w/ it for the rest of your life.  My sister in law thought about abortion w/ their 4th but she couldn't go through w/ it.  Ultimately she said living w/ the decision of what she'd done.  There are lots and lots of people out there who want a baby but unable to have one.  We our selves are going to make the decision to not have our own but adopt a child from foster care in the future.  I wish you luck w/ your decision making.  and for the others who make nasty comments  "Judge not that yea be judged"

Answer 15

I think that you should try and think of your baby first here, instead of yourself. Yes, you will be sacrificing 9 months of your life, but that is not to say that those 9 months cannot be an experience you will relish for the rest of your life. The "easy" choice is abortion, however, I can tell you that more than likely, there will come a time in your adult life that you will have sorrow and regret for that decsion.  Your baby deserves this life, that is why God placed that "life gift" in your belly. Whether or not you are the forever mother, you will always be the birth mother, and possibly allow a couple who wants so badly to parent, the ultimate gift.  There are retreats that cater to single young mothers, where you stay, and receive counseling with other young pregnant women until you give birth. They help you select the adoptive couple, and most costs are covered by that organization, by the adoptive couple.  Again, a hard decision either way, but I have the utmost admiration for the women who carry children, then place them in another couples arms because they cannot offer that child what they deserve, the ultimate sacrifice yes, but also, what a wonderful gift......

Answer 16

Not to be harsh. If you do not have time to have a baby them you should not be having s*x.

You need to look at all you options. T

here are alot of people that would love to be in your shoe's. Think you can give a  family a dream of a life time.

Why not think about this child and what a wonderful life you can give some else. It will be hard but you will feel much better about yourself.

Or you can abort and when you are ready to have a child things might not be so easy and then you are really going to feel guilty.

Answer 17

Because I'm sure there will be anti-abortion comments... I want to just answer that part of the question. When I was 17 I got pregnant and by 18 I had an abortion.... I was very responsible, and a virgin before this b*****d decided to use me for his reason to be in jail for a few years. Regardless, I am now married, with 2 children living a wonderful life... Here is what abortion will do -

No one I know, knows I had one.

It's scary, but they will give you something before it happens to calm you down... It really helps.(this is for the surgical abortion)

It took me 1 year to stop thinking of myself as a murderer....

But now that I look at my children, old enough to raise them and be a good mother, I do not regret what I did... I know it was the best thing at that time.

Abortion is not illegal for a reason... don't let people bring you down.

Adoption may be a "better option" but if you are not going to take a vitamin every single day, drink only water and eat healthy with no caffiene and read and sing to that unborn baby... without any substances entering your body.. you could easily give that child problems they will have to deal with for the rest of their life. It's up to you... but adoption, if you can stay healthy, is great... but I promise when you see that baby, you will NOT want to give them up. That's why abortion is there, so you never have to go through all that... BUT, make sure this is a one time thing and you always are using protection...

if you have any more questions, you can ask, I will help.

Answer 18

adoption at least you know youa re giving that baby a caring loving home aborting you are killing a baby...how would you sleep at night. if you didnt have time for a pregnancy why did you have s*x yes it may be fun but the only reasson for s*x is to have children. your old enough to have s*x you are old enough to see that you are doing the right thing., how would you feel if your momkilled you...pretty crappy

Answer 19

Hello~

I have been in your shoes before.  I know you are scared.  Be careful of the comments you receive online, and in the end go with what feels right.  Only you know what is right for you!

Many people say abortion is wrong.  They resent people who have abortions however they do nothing to solve the problem.  Many of the people who judge will never adopt these children, they just want to judge you.  

I have helped many pregnant girls through a woman's organization I use to volunteer with.  People would stand outside and protest having no clue what is going on in the lives of these women.  Protesting the abortion of a homeless woman, addicted to crack and HIV+.  However these people would never in a million years adopt a HIV+ crack addicted baby...

Just know, even though I don't know you, I support your decision.  I have faith you and only you knows what is best.

Peace and love~

Answer 20

If you don't have the time then I wouldn't be selfish. Not to be mean but if you don't have the time- I think you should deal with it and probably stay pregnant- You have all rights to have that baby.I think the baby has a right to live but if it dies on its own its ok. BUT There are soooooooo many people wanting that experience of getting up at night because of cervical cancer so I think you should put it up for adoption. NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN!

Answer 21

I want a baby so much and dont agree with abortions. I can understand this will be a hard and horrible decision for you to make! Dont have an abortion its not the childs fault i would put it up for adoption. I would suggest that you think about this decision carefully if you do choose the abortion as once you decide to have one it can never be reversed. Talk to your family and partner about it. I hope you make the correct decision x

Answer 22

if you dont have time to be a parent, just have the child and give it up for adoption. That way your giving that baby a chance to live and you dont have to care for i.

Answer 23

You should seriously look into adoption.  You created a life, a living being and that's an honor.  If you choose to make an adoption plan for the child, you should contact an attorney or agency & they can steer you in the right direction.

You can choose the adoptive family & you can choose the level of openness that you want.  You can have frequent contact, no contact or anywhere in between.  I think that's pretty awesome!

Anyway, watch this video.  I found it by happenstance today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qj3nWy7H...

Amazing song!  I love it!

Answer 24

Everyone that says go for adoption because there are people out there who want kids - well what about the 500,000 kids in foster care right now? Or the millions of orphans in other countries that need homes? Why add one more to these numbers?

Answer 25

You won't want the guilt of killing the baby when you think about it later in your life. If you are questioning it like that now, imagine how you'll feel in 5-10 years. Abortion is obviously not right for you. Adoption would be the better answer.

Answer 26

u shouldnt have gotten pregnat in the first place but any way i think that u should put it up for adoption because at least it will still be alive

Answer 27

adoption. i understand you dont want to go through pregnancy and stuff. but if my birth mom had had an abortion which is what she wanted. then i wouldnt be here and that wouldnt be cool.

Answer 28

You were capable of conceiving so 9months (or less) will not kill you. I would deffintley chose adoption unless you have some strange medical disease where you cannot have kids or else something will happen to you that I have never heard of then do what your heart tells you to do. I am not going to judge you because there might be more to your story.Being pregnant doesn't consist of a lot of 'time'. So how can you not have time? No one really ever does. My 15 yr old neice gave her child up for adoption.She was only a freshman when she got pregnant and had it when she was a sophmore.She had time and never once considored having an abortion because she created it and she never had such a wonderful feeling so alive in her she told me.She had school to deal with,friends,more peer pressure, all kinds of things like that and had time.Everyone has time,I don't care if someone who is a workaholic is pregnant,they still have time.I don't care if someone is a firefighter they still have time. I don't care who anyone is everyone has time. And parenting isn't for everyone so ADOPTION would probably be best.Just think of it this way,what if your mom aborted you? Then you wouldn't even be here right now. I  often have thought of that as well and I can't stand the feeling of not being wanted.There are so many people out there who are loving couples who have tried for yrs to have kids and can't. They would love to adopt!

Not only that but there are SO many risks of abortions that some abortion clinics won't always tell you.And believe me your not the only one out there who is stuck on the subject or abortion and adoption. Here is a link to a website about all the facts on abortions and the sideeffects such as Bladder Injury,Bowel Injury,Breast Cancer,Ectopic Pregnancy and there is so much more.

http://www.abortionfacts.com/literature/...

Which is better to remember, "I gave my baby life. And because I loved him/her,and I gave him into the arms of a loving couple" - or to remember, "I selfishly ended my baby's life?"

Good luck with whatever you chose!

=)

-Liz

Answer 29

Please choose adoption. By choosing abortion, not only do you rob the life of a little, innocent baby, but you also rob the dream of a good married couple who can't have kids to have a child.

I know you are feeling very confused, but please, don't choose the easy way out, it may seem good now, but from what I've heard from ohters, you never really get over the fact that you took his/her life.

Also, having an abortion can permanatly cause dammage to your body, possiably preventing you from ever having children.

I'm really not trying to sound harsh, I just want to help you. Please make the best decision. Try have a great day, even though you are having a rough time! :)

~ToTellTheTruth

Answer 30

well I felt the same way I got pregnant @ 22 with my bf of 6 years.  I'm in school and on top of that my bf had a nervous breakdown.  so now here I am in school-jobless, sick(pregnancy complications)-jobless, now I have a man with a problem who will probably always have problems now-- that's a mouth full to swallow.  I thought about it, abortion and adoption, I ran the idea across my son's father and even though he was out of it I listened to him.(I was thinking more so adoption)  My son's dad is still sick and has been for yrs, he can't really provide for his self let alone for us. Never the less, I'm a proud single mother. I'm glad I had my boy and I didn't kill him or give him away.  Out of the whole conversation me and my ex had some years ago I still vividly remember him asking me, how you gonna carry someone inside you for 9 mos to give him away? that hard,don't you think?  I never regretted it.   I have a beautiful baby boy that I get to see live a grow up.  My life has purpose now.   I try to  image a life without him.  I can't not now.  Everything happens for a reason. (I'm not being cliche)

Answer 31

You should definetly go with adoption. There is a chance of life inside of your right now and if you abort you will have to live with it the rest of your life. With having this child you will make another family happy along with yourself.