Adoption or what?

Question

If you had the chance of adopting or having a biological child which one would you chose?

I know what my personal opinion would be I just wanted to see what others would say.

Answer 1

I am adopted,i have always wanted to adopt,but i have wanted to experience a pregnancy too.so i guess i would have a baby myself,and hopefully adopt too.but i would be happy just to adopt if i could not conceive for some reason.

Answer 2

I would have loved to experience pregnancy, childbirth and subsequent motherhood.  Infertility stopped that from happening.  About the time I considered adopting a child who was in foster care, I became very ill.  A combination of illness, a long recovery and other life changes made that no longer a feasible option.  But, I remarried almost 8 years ago, and now have 2 grown step-sons.  So, I'm holding out for grandkids!

Answer 3

well, not for nothing but if you can reproduce then do it. Everyone would like to have their own biological child. Not that adopting isnt good, but MOST people who adopt are people who cannot have children, or have already have children and dont want to have to birth any more.... SO go ahead and have a baby, then in the future go ahead and adopt. There is no other feeling like holding a baby after you have giving birth to him/her....    =)

Answer 4

Adopt hands down!

Answer 5

I was adopted as an infant, and I'd never want to inflict that pain on someone else.

Either I'd make my own babies or enjoy visiting other people's kids.

Answer 6

I was blessed with both.

Answer 7

I too was blessed with both~~~bio children and an adopted son.  Because I have experienced both I can honestly say both are special for different ways.  Having a child and being pregnant is an amazing thing something you cannot explain completely.  Adoption is on the other hand a different emotion a feeling but until you go through it you cannot truly understand the fulfillment it holds.  Both are blessings.

Answer 8

Well what is your personal opinion? It is a hard question to be asking. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and everyone is different. I was adopted and because of that I always wanted my own. I have considered adoption knowing there are a lot of needy children in the world but in all honesty it isn't the same even when people try to rationalise it that way. My adopted mother never wanted me it was my adopted father who did and they adopted my older brother 2 yrs earlier who they wanted. Also what is the birth parents want their child back. They are well within their right as they are their natural parent. You could have them for a few months and love them like you gave birth and then bam the birth mother wants them back. If you have given birth to your own that cannot happen to you. Adoption is wonderful thing don't get me wrong and I know people who are unable to have their own biological children who adopt are great people but I am one of the ones who is able to have babies and will continue to do so until god stops me. I guess I have had a bad experience so this is only my opinion which in all honesty doesn't matter.

Answer 9

everything seems to be pointing toward choice these days. I am adopted- and I am very thankful that my birth mom chose life- and since i had a very good experience with adoption- I chose to adopt 2 children. However that is not necessarily the best choice of others- I am a believer in God, the one that created us all- and I believe EVERY child that is conceived has a purpose- some will be fulfilled in their biological families, and some through adoption- and unfortunately 4,000 a day are not given that chance.  Need I say more?

Answer 10

My husband and I tried for 4 years to have a baby and finally after our third IUI I became pregnant and awaiting a baby girl! I am so glad that we chose to do this because I would not have wanted to miss out on everything that I have experienced so for being pregnant, It is amazing and i love it and i would do it again! But we are also thinking about adoption as well!

Answer 11

I had always hoped to have children. After 8 miscarriages and a still birth, I finally gave birth to a healthy child. I was also told by the attending doctors not to try again as it would endanger my life. It just happens that I was blessed with a child through adoption as well. I have been blessed with two wonderful children. They aren't perfect... but they are both miracles in their own right. Given the choice... I'd do it all again. They are worth everything it took to have them in my arms and in my heart today.

Answer 12

As someone who has tried to conceive for 8+ years, I can honestly say that it devastated me to learn that I could not have biological children.  

That being said, when I look at my 5 yr old son (who was adopted at the age of 6 months), I rarely remember that I did not give birth to him.  The only time that it really becomes an issue is during medical appointments due to his medical history.  Yes, I think about it because I'm in this category trying to share my experiences, but when it comes to everyday life with my son, I don't think about him being adopted.  He is my child - plain & simple.  

So if you asked me 8 years ago, I probably would have chosen biological child because I didn't know the love my heart could hold.  Asking me today, I would say "both".  Children - regardless of the way they come into your family - are a blessing.

Answer 13

As an adoptee - having my own children has been the most amazing experience - especially since now I finally have people that look and act - just like me!! An added bonus really!!

Most people chose to have there own - first choice. It's easier if it can happen - the kids are a match to yourself and your partner biologically - it's what humans have been doing for centuries (having s*x - and making babies) - there is a lot less heartache involved for all parties.

Some look at adopting after they've had their own.

Some look at adopting when they've tried every other way of having their own.

Some decide that they want to adopt - instead of birthing their own bio kids - but there aren't that many - compared with the wider population.

Myself - I hope to foster children that need support and love - a little time down the track. Time when I can give them the most of my attention - time when my 3 girls are a little more independent. (they're still quite young)

Answer 14

We are choosing adoption of older children.

Answer 15

id rather adopt bringing more children out of the orphanage and into a stable home

Answer 16

That is a question we have just answered.  Adopt!  I don't know if i can explain this very well but here it goes.  The nagging and pulling at your heart like something is missing.  As you load your children into the car you feel as if you are forgetting someone.  A feeling with all of your being that your child is out there in this big world somewhere and you will never know completeness until you find him or her.  God or a Higher Being somehow unites these souls through adoption and you know this is it.  Their home.  Your baby that you carried in your heart all this time is now in your arms.  Adoption is such an amazing miracle.  

I have been blessed with both biological and adopted children as a result i can honestly say biological is overrated.  I believe that the love of my husband and I created all of these little souls.  I have so much more respect for the little souls that had a more complicated road to travel to complete our family.  So sad to hear of bad outcomes through adoption.  The good far out weighs the bad!

Answer 17

Having your own is great.  There's nothing comparable to creating life in your womb and bringing it into the world.

Being adopted, however, sucks.  I've had 34 years experience of it and I'd never put any child through that pain.

Answer 18

having a baby is better.