Advice Please I have a Situation!!!!....

Question

I have a situation...

My brother met a girl...he is 22 and she is 17 I think?? (He's been seeing her ruffly 3 months) He told me she's 18...her my space page reflects that she is 17 but must have just turned 17...

The 2nd time she stayed the night I had a talk with my Brother (we are room mates in the same house). This is the first kinda real girlfriend he's had. I talked with him about practicing safe s*x if he's not ready to be a father. He swore to me that it's not like that but I told him whether he's "tapping that or not" to make sure he uses protection if he's not ready. He did respond he's not ready. He owns his own house and is doing very well for himself at this point in life. His life consist of eating, sleeping, working and playing on line games for 5-6 hours a day. He makes good money and he does enjoy buying what he wants when he wants it...

The other day I went into his room to try and locate a pair of scissors I was missing (everything manages to end up in his room) and I came across a box of thrown away used condoms. I was very pleased that he is using protection however I was shocked as what box they were discarded in....they were thrown away in a EPT box (early pregnancy test box)....

I don't know much about this girl other than she's supposed to be 18, a drop out from high school, is on probation for stealing a car and can't get her license and to my understanding very loose in her ways if you know what I mean....she's keep smoking in the house after I have asked her not to which means she's a little dis-respectful too...

I am really bothered by it...and I don't know if I should ask him if she's pregnant or if I should just leave it alone because it's really none of my business??? Some things have changed to...she is slowly moving her stuff into the house. He's looking for a better paying job or is considering going back to school to get a better job and she is trying to quit smoking...

Should I be worried??? I am hoping that they might have had a scare and now he's using the condoms....

Answer 1

I would not want this skany girl going out with my brother.  It sounds like he could do so much better that this girl.  

Tell him to remember this - people will judge you by your friends - they can bring you up or down.  Also if she does get pregnant, then what is to say the baby is his- if she is as loose as you say she is???????????????

Good luck with this situation.  Hopefully they will break up before things get any farther!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

This whole thing sounds a little strange.  Why on earth would anyone save used condoms?   Just weird to me.

Answer 3

most people will tell you to mind your own buisness,but I have 3 brothers and we have always been close and me being female have always mother henned them and still do.I say talk to your brother about your fears.and good luck also My brothers have got mad at me for butting in,But in the long run found out it was a good thing,they do me the same way.

Answer 4

she sounds dirty. . .throw her S**t in the yard, light it on fire, and tell your brother he can do better.

Answer 5

just talk to him

and be as nice as possible

tell him that you'll love your new niece or nephew to make him comfortable telling you the truth

and hopefully all goes well

about the new gf, if she's really 17 he may have a bit of charges to escape as well as a child if she really is pregnant warn him about that

and make sure she stays away from the cigarettes

not only can she get lung cancer which will stress him out

but he can get it too from second hand smoke