After a miscarriage?

Question

Is it normal to have pain in my sides (where my ovaries are) & back pain and feeling like ive done loads of situps after a miscarriage.

At least i think it is over, i passed one huge clot which im sure the baby was inside of , loads and loads of blood and something which looked like the afterbirth. Not bleeding so heavy now but still have many pains and im worried incase i cannot have babies again :( Is this all normal?

Answer 1

I'm really sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you right now,i suggest you go to the hospital,you probably have been there by now,but yes it is normal to have these pains as there is changes hapening to your body right now hun,of course you can have babies again but i would give it at least a month before you try.good luck,god bless you,x*x

Answer 2

I'm SOO sorry.  How far along were you?  I'm asking because I know the pain becomes more severe the further along you are.  If you had a very early miscarriage, you probably would not need any type of intervention from a doctor.  But if you were further along, you may not have passed everything, and might need a D & C.  I would DEFINITELY call your OB's office, or the ER, and let them know how you feel.  I've been through it three times, but was early on in each case, and never felt the residual pain you are describing.  

A miscarriage alone does not prevent you from having another baby, so please don't worry about that.  

I wish you the best, and am soo sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I suffered two and the pain was like a very,very bad period pain. I think you should see your doctor as not all of mine came away and i had to have a d and c (basically a scrape) to ensure my womb was empty as it might become infected..sorry I dont mean to frighten you but as you are worried do get medical advice. Take care and hope everything is ok in the future

Answer 4

Katherine

i am sorry for what happened too you i really am, and i have answered one of your previous Q.

but i think you need too speack too a councelor, as you have been asking the same things for the past few days over and over again and i think you are looking more for emotional support from people, rather than advice arn't you.

As if it was just advice you would of asked once or twice at the most not over a dozen times.

i really do understand where you are coming from, like i told you in your previous Q.

but no one on here is going to help your pain, physically or emotionally, and although everyone being so nice and caring feels good for a few mins, it still hurts so you keep needing more.

It's BEST to talk your grief through with friends or family as well as with organisations that can offer you specialist, confidential support and information.

You may want to have a funeral or service, of some kind, just too mark this and its a way of dealing with it, maybe let a balloon go, and say a parayer nad a message for your baby, or something like that, thats what i did and it really helped me

Maybe give the baby a name, i did and it just helped me a bit. This doesn't have to be a proper name, it might even be something like 'Peanut' or 'Titch', but the act of naming means that you have a name as many people do not know if it was a boy or a girl and you don't have to refer to him or her as 'it', which can feel impersonal and upsetting.

If there is a photo from the baby's first scan, you may want to keep this in a treasured place as a special way of remembering your baby, perhaps on the due date or the anniversary of the loss. Often doing or making something, such as a memorial, can help you  work through your feelings. Keeping a journal, or collecting up the items already bought for the baby, and storing them lovingly is one way of doing this. You'll never forget the child you have lost, but finding a way of actively remembering and acknowledging him or her can help ease the pain.

i got in touch with these after mine and it really really helped talking and i think you might find it helpful too

.http://www.babyloss.com/support_groups.p...

go too this website and find one in your area or one you can contact

http://www.babyloss.com/support_groups.p...

keep your chin up you WILL get through this

Answer 5

You need to go to a doctor. My mom had a miscarriage years ago and she thought it was over and everything came out but it turned out she was pregnant with twins and one of the miscarried babies was still inside. She ended up with a terible infection inside of her. She did go on to have 3 more kids but she was really sick.

Answer 6

yes go to the doctor and you will get a d and c to completely clear you got , it is painless and needs to be done,you will feel down and sore for a while and you will be able to have more babies , have had 3 miscarriages but also have 5 lovely kids ,god bless feel better soon

Answer 7

If you passed the fetus naturally you will need a scan to make sure that it has all come away. The pains may be caused by some of the fetus still being left in the womb and this can cause infection. Go see the doctor and they will check for you and tell you if you need a D&C. Sorry for your loss, happened to me twice so i know how it feels.

Answer 8

Hi,

((BIG HUGS)))

I am so sorry for your lost babe. Yes, what you are experiencing is typical of a miscarriage.

Did you have a scan which showed baby had no heartbeat? I had a missed miscarriage at 18 weeks and had a D&C operation. I was given options of D&C, miscarrying naturally or having tablets.

They do say to go back for a scan just to check everything has come away as risk of infection.

Can I share a poem with you that helped me through my  miscarriage ...

What Makes A Mother?

I thought of you and closed my eyes

And prayed to God today

I asked "What makes a Mother?"

And I know I heard Him say.

"A Mother has a baby"

This we know is true

"But God can you be a Mother,

When your baby's not with you?"

"Yes, you can," He replied

With confidence in His voice

"I give many women babies,

When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,

And others for the day.

And some I send to feel your womb,

But there's no need to stay."

"I just don't understand this God

I want my baby to be here."

He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,

And then I saw the tear.

"I wish I could show you,

What your child is doing today.

If you could see your child's smile,

With all the other children and say...

'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,

Of love and life and fear.

My Mummy loved me oh so much,

I got to come strait here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mum,

Who had so much love for me.

I learned my lessons very quickly,

My Mummy set me free.

I miss my Mummy oh so much,

But I visit her every day.

When she goes to sleep,

On her pillow's where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,

And whisper in her ear.

Mummy don't be sad today,

I'm your baby and I'm here.'

"So you see my dear sweet ones,

your children are okay.

Your babies are born here in My home,

And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with Me,

Until your lesson's through.

And on the day that you come home

they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,

It's the feeling in your heart

it's the love you had so much of

Right from the very start

Though some on earth may not realize,

you are a Mother.

Until their time is done.

They'll be up here with Me one day

and know that you are the best one!"

Thinking of you and your partner at this sad time.

God bless little one, sleep tight now x*x

Lx

  

Answer 9

I am a CCMA



I am sorry for your Loss

Yes the clots were the fetus..Yes it is normal to have this type of pain.. If you continue to bleed heavy for more than a few more days go to your OB/GYN you could have PCOS which is Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome

Yes it is possible that the baby did not completely expel and you will need a Dilation and Curettage D&C

Answer 10

Why are you asking this here??? Go to a doctor asap!

Answer 11

this is all normal, these pains are just your uterus contracting to miscarry the baby, noone can say for sure that you;ll have babies but sadly miscarriage ended 25% of pregnancies. i have suffered 5 miscarriages since 2004 but now have a 14month old son! he is my everything and was told i would never have kids so it is possible, the doctors should be able to tell you more, take sme pain killers and drink loads of water and relax, i am so sorry for you lose this is a hard thing to go thru and everything your feeling is normal, i hope your getting the support you need at this hard time, i hope your partner is alright also, sometimes men are forgotten in this situation... take care and huge hugs.

Answer 12

yes very normal.  Your body has to go through alot to pass the tissue.  Cramping can get severe at times.  I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and 7 weeks.  But my OB gave me darvocet for pain.  But you can take ibuprofen if you need.  If you start running a fever though, call your doctor ASAP.