Aren't we better off alone?

Question

Why do we really need relationships? Why do you think we have to love someone, consider that he or she is the one, put all our feelings of love into that relationship? What are we supposed to do after it ends? Just say "oops..." and move on, to have the same hurtful experience again?

Sure, you can have relationships for the s*x... but my questions refer to those based on love.

I'm beginning to think that i'm better by myself or not caring so much.

Answer 1

Think everyone who has experienced a broken heart feels as you do.  I guess we live in hope that one day we will have that success in love again, it can happen.  Course I'm still waiting but ever hopeful. lol

Answer 2

Well, yes. Heatbreak hurts. But isnt it better 2 share good things in life with others?

Answer 3

No, you don't say "oops, and move on"....you learn from that relationship, and you try to not make the same mistakes twice.  As humans, we are bound to make a lot of mistakes in our lifetime... we don't come with a manual.  What we try to do, is not repeat our mistakes...instead, we make new ones, and learn from those as well.  I would rather have loved in my lifetime a few times, than not love at all and be alone.

Answer 4

Technically we would be better off alone.  We'd be able to do what we want when we want without worrying bout anyone else.

However you are mistaken if you think any relationship is about love.  Love is something that the human race has come up with to explain the primal instincts that are encoded into our dna to procreate.  There is no other reason for a man and a woman to get together, so don't be mistaken that feeling your having when you meet someone isn't really because you love that person, it's because your dna is telling you to procreate.

Think about it, if we didnt have that instinctive urge to procreate would men and women even bother talking to each other? No doubtful, think about it men and women rarely like the same things, we tend to spend time with people that think like us (Men and women definitely do not think the same) because they truely understand us, like the same things as us, and pretty much act like us.

So don't fool yourself, every intimate relationship that a man and woman have together is purely about the s*x, even if they have managed to delude themselves into thinking otherwise.

Answer 5

Do that then, live happily ever after by yourself.

Answer 6

some people are better off alone, those that cheat, abuse drugs, abuse people/animals/kids, those that drink, those that go to the bars...etc...

you can't just run around and do what you want just because things are not "perfect" at home...  hence, you should never have married in the first place...

others, keep picking out bad mates, they should just remain alone, especially those with kids...  if you pick out a bad mate, those kids will learn bad habits, too =(...

being an example is more important than having someone around who isn't...

Best to be alone, for some people, not all, but, some.

Never stay with someone or go out with someone just because you don't want to be alone or are lonely.  Never.

Better to be alone in that case =)

You can be alone and still be happy.

Answer 7

I don't think it should be a must or our one and only goal in life to find the significant other, whomever they may be...We do need relationships be it friends family or for love, humans need this whether or not you and i like or dislike the facts. If we were meant to be alone then humanity would not feel the need to live in close proximity to each other, overpopulation would not be a problem, and there would not be so many broken hearts in the world. I don't think its a good idea for anyone to put everything you are into a relationship every single time you have an encounter, I think that should be something more sacred and harnessed. You can experience things with another do things talk about stuff, enjoy each others uniqueness without all the drama and boundaries that relationships seem to represent to alot of people including me as being like...

Relax enjoy the people you meet, learn from them, appreciate them, but keep hold of your sacred center for something you know to be a good and right thing...trust me you will know

Embrace the time spent being by yourself it is definitely therapeutic, enjoyable, sometimes even necessary although its not much fun nor is it healthy for extreme long periods of time.  Sounds like a little break is needed from the relationship experiences...take a break long or short...whatever...do your own thing...make yourself happy...stay single...get married...in the end all that matters is did you allow for happiness no matter which road you needed to take to reach that level

Answer 8

Who knows, but love feels so great.  It is actually better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.  The experience is overwhelming, and if shared by both, can be the best thing here on earth!!!  I would not change that experience for all of the money in the world!!!

Answer 9

Very few of us are better off being alone. Nature designed us to find a partner. Th difficulty is in deciding who the right partner should be. So few guys actually think about it seriously. We either grab whatever is going or chase eye-candy little realizing that the other partner also has a wants & needs list.  Take some time out and put some serious thought into what you want & when you have the answer think about it often. So that when the "s*x opportunity" arrives you wont be confused with that and real love. Good Luck  

Answer 10

You apparently believe you're not "alone".

I'm always alone, but never lonely, even when surrounded by my family.

But, that is just how I choose to look at it.  I do move from relationship to relationship on a daily basis.

By detaching yourself from the world, you'll find a whole new way of perceiving.

Answer 11

I am begining to see my life in that light as much as wish I did not have to.