At times afraid and fearful?

Question

Hi,

How can I not be afraid to ask for things when I need help at my complex?

In the clubhouse there is a candy bowl and one of my relatives asked for chocolate and I thought I was going to get in trouble and I was nervous. The assistant smiled and said you can ask for candy anytime.

It is just that in past I have been bullied by landlords, former co-workers and people all my life and as a result I have had the fear of man.

How can I ask for help without being so nervous?

Answer 1

the word "help" was created for the very reason that one person cannot answer anything by him/herself. i think you are not afraid it's just that you lack the confidence to actually approach someone and ask for their help. do not be ashamed in doing this because it does not only answer your inquiries/concerns, it also makes the other person (whom you're asking help from) feel glad that someone actually needs him/her (his/her help)

Answer 2

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT IN YOUR PAST ANYMORE, YOU ARE IN YOUR PRESENT TIME, DON'T BE FRETFUL OF MISHAPS THAT HAS HAPPENED IN THE PAST, JUST SAY PLEASE AND MAY I, THEN YOU WOULD NOT BE NERVOUS ABOUT ASKING FOR GOODIES =) REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU USE TO BE, YOU ARE STRONGER AND WISER AND BETTER THAN BEFORE, BE CONFIDENT BECAUSE YOU HAVE IT ALL

Answer 3

The title to your question was redundant. I might as well answer though. Just think that it is fine to ask and that it won't kill you and you won't get kicked out. They are only your landlords, not someone you are going to have a long-term relationship with. NO big deal.

Answer 4

omg i feel the same way some times but the best to do is trick your mind into thinking postive about everything and i learned if you laugh a lot it will help you clam your nervous

don't ever be afraid to ask for help and everyone is different don't think that just because the past brought you disrespectful peole then hope for your future to brindg you respectful people and if you do get nervous it will be alright just breath in and out or laugh and don't be scared remember we all get nervous

i hope i helped

peace love care

p.s. breath in and out with a smile all the best to u