Birthday Card?

Question

My daughter and her friend were making a birthday crd for their teacher but they were in the halls without permission getting teachers to sign it, although they say they didn't know they needed permission and I believe them. So another teacher saw them, and got upset at the girls and then told their teacher about the card. The girls say they want to write their teacher a note and still give her the card even though the teacher says she doesn't want it. The girls are getting detention for not getting permission and for telling the teacher her birthday card was a French project. I don't think it's fair because the girls' intentions were good, but should I let iy go or talk to the school? And what should my daughter, who is devastated that her hard work was for nothing, do?

Answer 1

That's really harsh. I remember reading your question last night or the night before about this.

I think it's really unfair the girls are being punished for this. All that hard work and the teacher now says she doesn't want it. You could try speaking to the school, but I doubt they'll budge on this.

As for your daughter, she could try having a quiet word with the teacher, but again she might not budge.

That's a rotten thing to do to the girls though, especially snce they had nothing but good intentions.

Answer 2

i would go to the scholl and speak to the teacher.you dont get children doing things like that for ther teachers its a nice thing to do, so why is the teacher being like that for i dont no,he/she should be greatfull that the girls thought of him/her on ther birthday,and for your daugther i think she should of just left the card on his/her desk at  the end of the day and if thay wanted it was ther and if thay dont then dont worry .she shouldnt fell deverstated about it as its only a teacher

Answer 3

Yes it was a beautiful idea but your daughter did something wrong...breaking the rules.  Regardless of if she made an honest mistake or not, she should face the consequences.  What's wrong with that?  What message are YOU sending her by trying to get her out of it?  Mommy will fix things?  Don't worry, it's okay because you were ignorant?  Please, let it go.  Let her suck it up.  Sometimes good intentions are just that and not always appreciated or wanted.

Answer 4

I will suggest you to go with the other parents too.. along with the two girls and ask for a conference between the teacher who told and the teahcer who's card was for.. And let the girls speak their vertion and the teacher's too.(if you can record this talk with out being noticed)  IF this still goes against your daugther's then go more up to who ever is on top of the principal . Because it will not be fair for the girls to get detention for signing a card for the teacher.. Just be careful with what you said because somethimes the teachers take it against the students on grades or on how they treat them so you are just looking for fairness... And Why this particular teacher told and the rest who signed the card didn't??? Good luck and best wishes!!

Answer 5

Let it go. It's none of your business. The girls knew the rules and broke them. Your daughter should learn from this that the rules apply to teacher's pet too.

Answer 6

I think they were a bit harsh at the school. Tell your daughter it was a beautiful idea and that you are very proud of her, Also it might be worth you going and speaking to this teacher and let her know how much she has upset your daughter and that you're not happy about her doing detention . Explain to your daughter that some times people can be ungrateful but that you're proud of her for her lovely ideas and believe what she is telling you I think its important she knows your on her side, If it was my daughter i would not make her sit the detention. Good luck.

Answer 7

get to the school and talk to her teachers.......poor girl how dare they....they come down hard on the good kids...Baden's get left alone...don't be worried about going up the school..to tell them how you feel...some mums are up there all the time...you can be a voice for your daughter...be heard..