Bridal Party Responsibility

Question

Should the Bridal Party be asked to pay for any additional items for the wedding besides their clothes and shoes? I understand that the brides maids will get the shower together and bachelorette party and pay for that but should there be a collection to give a monetary gift to the bride and groom.

Answer 1

NO they don't need to pay for anything outside of their clothes, shower,  B party.. if the MOH wants she can start the $$ dance at the wedding.

Answer 2

My girls paid for there dresses alterations to there dresses shoes there own nails hair and make up....

They didn't mind they knew that I was paying for my whole wedding and didn't have the extra money for them. Or I would have paid for all there nails make up and hair

  

Answer 3

No, that should not be required. In fact, it's traditional for the bride and groom to give gifts (not money) to all of their attendants! If someone is asking you to contribute an amount that is uncomfortable for you, simply say "That's out of my budget, but this is amount I could contribute" or "Thanks for letting me know, but I am getting a separate wedding gift for the couple on my own."

You are never obligated to give a gift, particularly money. Your gift is supporting the bride and groom during the celebration of their marriage.  

Answer 4

I have never heard of the bridal party collecting money for the bride and groom. Typically the wedding party pays for the following:

1. Their attire (shoes, tux, suit, dress, etc.)

2. Travel expenses (gas, hotel room, flight)

3. Parties thrown for the bride or groom (shower, bachelor/bachelorette)

4. Some pay for  their own hair and make-up the day of the wedding - sometime the bride will foot this bill. It depends.

5. Everything else is not expected or mandatory, but members of the wedding party usually will give the couple a gift from their registry. But again, this is optional.

That list is more than enough, and greatly appreciated. Usually the bride and groom present the wedding party with gifts as a thank you for everything they have done to help with the wedding.

Answer 5

Well, I have been in four wedding parties and myself and the other bridesmaids have always paid for the gown, whatever accessories were included, pitched in for the planning of the shower, pitched in for the bachelorette party, pitched in for the stag and doe (if the couple decides they want one) and on top of this I have always bought a gift for the wedding and the shower. I have actually never known a bridesmaid to NOT buy a wedding and shower gift. I guess if you are financially strapped the bride would totally understand if you couldn't do all of that, but it has been my understanding that it is etiquette.  

Answer 6

No not that I know of.

Answer 7

I have been a bridesmaid a quite a few weddings, besides your shoes dress ( hair, makeup,etc.) and if YOU decide to help with the bachelorette party and bridal shower. I dont think you should give anymore money. I think all of that is too much within itself anyway!

Answer 8

I believe that your "gift" is your personal participation in the bridal party.  Beyond that, it's up to the members of the bridal party whether or not they wish to contribute further for an additional gift to the bride and groom.

The groom may give gifts to his groomsmen as this is of long standing tradition.  The bride may also give her bridesmaids a gift such as a necklace or other momento of this special day.

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