Bridal Shower Question?

Question

So i was just invited to a shower, and i have a question, the bride to be is throwing her own shower. Is this strange. I kinda feel like it is hey come bring me presents! We even have to RSVP to the bride to be. Is it me or is this a little off?

Answer 1

that's not the traditional way.

I suppose if she's inviting friends to come and relax with her and she asks for no gifts, just your time, I suppose it's wouldn't be that bad.

But that doesn't sound like what you are saying she is doing!

Answer 2

I dont see a problem with it.  She probably went to many bridal showers and gave many gifts to all her friends and family members.  Its her turn now so why shouldn't she receive the same courtesy !  

Maybe she doesn't have a bridesmaid or matron of honor.  Or if she does they coulnd not afford to throw her a party.

And what everyone is failing to see is that if she is throwing the party it is costing her money.  So why would she be doing it just for the presents!  

As for her registering where she would like her gifts to come from, doesn't every bride do that?  

I would feel bad not going to her shower if she came to mine and supported me.

I would go !  I would feel kind of bad she had to do it on her own.  Has anyone even asked why her own mom couldn't throw it or her future mil for that matter.

Answer 3

I can understand if its a money issue.If shes having bridesmaids,maybe they cant afford to throw her one or

the MIL or her mom.Not every family has money to spear.

Answer 4

A little of  the bridal party or mother of the bride usually throws it. Is your friend not liked lol?

Answer 5

Its not just you. What shes doing is wrong.

Answer 6

It's way off- but apparently, people don't care much about manners or etiquette these days. Come over into Pregnancy, where people post questions about how many baby showers they can have- apparently the new norm is that every baby "deserves to be celebrated" with a shower.

Answer 7

That is a little off.  She should not be throwing her own shower, that's pretty tacky.

Answer 8

OK, that's a little over the top. No guest of honor should be throwing their own shower. TACKY!!!!!!! It's definitely a gift hunt.

Answer 9

Yes that sounds like a gift grab. If I was invited to a shower like that I wouldn't go.

Answer 10

Wow, that's pretty poor etiquette on the bride's part.  You're never supposed to throw your own shower, because you're right- it's like saying, "OK, I'm getting married, and THIS is where I'm registered, and THIS is what I want you to buy me!!!!"  Poor girl probably just doesn't know any better.  They don't really teach stuff like wedding etiquette these days.  I know I used to throw my own b-day parties every year, before I knew better, without giving it a second thought, and if you think about it, that's kind of the same thing.  Just give her the benefit of the doubt, RSVP to her even though it feels weird, and bring her something nice from the registry.  Don't worry- someone more outspoken will probably enlighten her about the folly of her ways at some point.

Answer 11

It is a little off... but there is really nothing you can do about it. I would find some way to ask her if you are expected to bring a gift, or if it's just more of a celebration.

Answer 12

Well I almost had to throw my own shower because I am getting married but I do not have a wedding party. My friends are now throwing me one, which I found out was tacky as far as what was in the invites.....but the only reason why I was going to do it myself was because, when I asked "so called friends and family about doing it" people were acting iffy and like they were so busy etc etc. Maybe she had the same situation.