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Can I find my brith mother?

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I had a closed adoption so my parents know nothing about her. I was born in Georgia but I don't think that is where she was from. Is this totally hopeless?

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I was also from a closed adoption.

Devin's mom gave you some good advice. You can also try registering at:

http://isrr.net/

Chances are your parents know something - information about birth parents is almost always given to adoptive parents before the adoption. However, it's not always the truth either.

I would also suggest that if you really want to search, that you read some books written by adoptees and birthmothers regarding reunion. It's not something I recommend going into without being prepared. I found my first mother and father 3 years ago and while everything has went remarkably well it was not without extreme emotions of sadness, guilt, anger, elation, etc., on both ends.

Best of luck to you.
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I havent been able to find my birth mother as I was involved in a closed adoption 38 yrs ago and there is so much red tape to go beyond that i am not willing to go thru it. It takes a long time and lots of work by u and if u need to find her go ahead but my opinon is to let her have her life and u have yours, or u could open up a new set of worms and heartache on your part...
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Contact the agency who handled your adoption.  Often they have resources for reunions, or at least some information that birthparents leave for their adult children.  Laws vary state to state, but the only laws that matter are those in the state that made your adoption legal.

I had a closed adoption, and the agency used a confidential intermediary to send a letter to my birthmother to ask if she wanted to meet me.  The agency should always keep information about your birth relatives (even though it's not released to your adoptive parents) in case of a medical emergency.
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I am adopted and had a closed adoption as well. What you can do is call the agency you were adopted from and request that you want to give them your name and info,so if your birth parents are looking for you they have your info on file. I did and within 3 months the agency called me and told me my birth mother was looking for me and we went from there.Like I said call the agency and ask them what you can do. Good luck hon!
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sometimes people's birth parents leave information so that their children can find them when they're older (if they even want to).
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well it will be hard

but hope you the best
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It is never hopeless. Check out adoption.com she may be registered looking for you.
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anythings possible.
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i have almost the same kind of adoption. my parents know nothing about her and i cant find out until im 18. I just figure, i was adopted for a reason, and hopefully it was good judgement on my biological moms part. and if it wasnt, i love my parents for finding me and im happy with my life. If your dream is finding your birth mom, i say.... go for it. It's not something i'm looking to do, but many people want to and i think its great.
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You could start with the adoption agency your adoptive parents used to add you to the family. They might have some information or be able to relay your information to the birth mother.

You could also contact GA Vital Records dept to request your birth certificate:

http://health.state.ga.us/programs/vital...

You might be able to hire a private investigator to seek out more information for you, too.

I wish you well!
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It will be difficult but not hopeless. First, try to go through the agency you were adopted from and see if you can get any information. Also try to get a hold of your orignal social security card number, this might lead you to be able to get your birth parents names. Good luck and be sure you are ready to deal with any conseqences that may come.
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It is much harder because of the closed adoption but my father found his natural mother and it was a closed adoption.

But it was at a time when someone stole the records in LA and was selling them for a couple hundred dollars.
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I don't really know the correct process, like if you have to hire an attorney to get records or anything, but I am pretty sure it can be done. It might just cost some money and take some time. When I told my mom that I wanted to find my birth mom I thought it was going to take awhile, but my situation is unique being that my birth mom is the niece of friends of my parents. I know there are search agencies that might be able to help. I wish you the best and though I cannot offer "real advice" I do offer you my hope and support. Good luck!!

BTW, I want to add..make sure you're emotionally prepared as anything can happen. I happen to have had a wonderful, positive reunion with my birth parents as well as my biological siblings. I am actually pretty close with my biological sister. However, I know people who had bad reunions. This is why I waited until I was 23 before attempting to find them instead of when I was legally able to at 18. Again, good luck and I hope you find them and that it is as wonderful as my experience.
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hey i was adopted too, why u want to bother looking for her? do u really want to find her?
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It is not totally hopeless, there are lots of sites on the Internet, you could use an agency like parent finders to help you.  A private detective is also a way of finding stuff out.

There must be a reason why your mom chose a private adoption.  Some times if it's a birth from  a non consensual encounter to see the child again will bring back lots of pain.
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Yes it's possible, it took me 30 years, I never gave up.
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just keep on trying. dont give up.
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Go to reunite.com and sign in Im sure your mom is wanting to hear from YOU !
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E-mail me and I will tell you how I found my birthmom. I was born in Charleston, SC but my mom is from Bryan County GA and my aunt works as a home ec teacher at the county high school. Your situation is not hopeless.
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Here is a link that tells you what steps to take regarding GA adoption reunion laws and what information is available to you.

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/georgi...

At the very least you are entitled to non-id information.  This info will give you your birth mother age, if she had siblings, what was going on in her life at the time.  Info about her parents and possibly the same info regarding the birth father.  GA records are not available online or to searchers so the search may be more difficult but nothing is impossible.

Also register with as many online registries as you can find.

Here are a few to start with

registry.adoption.com

http://www.aci.net/schaefer/page60.html  (g's adoption)

findme.org

and any GA specific ones that you can find both state run and private.

Good luck
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