Can anyone help, please?

Question

my mom has decided that she's going to "make" me have a Sweet 16 party, next month. but, i don't want a party. i'm starting to get really mad at her, but she just won't understand that i don't want one. i've told her a million times that i don't want a party, but she WON'T listen.

can anyone help, please?

Answer 1

tell her that you know she loves you and wants to make you happy but you feel that a party is unneccesary. tell her that you ddon'twant a party and forcing this upon you will only make things worse.

Answer 2

threaten her that if she insists on having a party then you wont be coming.

Answer 3

maybe your mother never had a sweet 16 party herself so she wants to use you to have one!  Point out to her that she's having the party for herself, not for you, and that since it's your day, you should be able to celebrate how oyu wish.  say all fo this in a nice tone, without anger or frustration. This will keep her from getting defensive and she'll be more apt to listen to what you're actually saying. tell her you aren't kidding about not wanting a party (maybe she thinks you aren't serious and are just being polite).  Let her know you'd rather have a small family party, if she's planning a big party. Tell her you just want to celebrate with those really close to you.  If she doesn't go for any of this, maybe you can try to have fun at the party.  I never had a sweet 16 party and I wish that i had.  

Answer 4

It is just something I think she must be wanting to do for you.  Tell her yo would rather have  the money she is planning on spending on the party to go buy?????? whatever.  Tell her she may want it but you dont and that it would be a shame that she made you unhappy for your b-day.

Answer 5

Well, what would you rather have? And have you explained to your mom why you don't want a Sweet 16 party? Just let her know that you would rather do something else like go out for dinner as a family. Or what ever you want to do. It could be that she wants to through one for the wrong reasons because maybe she never had one herself as she was growing up and wants you to experience that. Sweet 16 and you turning 16 is something special for not only your mom, but it should also be special to you too, something for you to always remember. It is not all that bad turning 16! Once in a life time party with all your closest friends to hang out with. Anyway, you have yourself a great 16th birthday no matter what you do, always be grateful for what you have.

Answer 6

sit her down and make sure she is paying attention then explain that u dn't want a party.

Answer 7

tell her nicely and politely that you love her dearly for wanting to give you a party but at this point in your life you just do NOT want a party... and tell her what you do want..  NICELY............. also, dont know if there are more people involved.. tell them your concerns and that you DO NOT want a party and your mom is making you very upset... make your wants CLEAR but do it calmly and nicely.

Answer 8

Obviously this party isn't about you. It's about HER.

Maybe your mom never had a sweet 16 when she was your age, or maybe she did, but still has some unresolved issues whether they are good or bad only she can tell.

What your mom is doing is what is called "living vicariously" through you. The way I see it you have at least two options here.

Either bite the bullet, & let your mom have HER sweet 16 party, or talk with her & ask her "just who is this party actually supposed to be for anyway?"

Meanwhile here's something you might want to explore for yourself.

Since a sweet 16 party is going to place you momentarily at the centre of everyone's attention, why are you so resistant to that?

I am not trying to say that there's anything wrong about your point of view, but you may find out something about yourself & what makes you feel the way you do about having someone celebrate you openly.

Happy 16th!