Christians If you daughter or son?

Question

Came up to you and said she or he doesn't want to follow the Christian way of life? Would you support them?

Answer 1

I'd congratulate them on their freedom from the inanity.

Answer 2

i would beat em!

just kidding!

no i wouldnt do that!

i would definatly support them!

my god there my kids.

if theya re little then i might just let it go

but now they are older and we would probably get into

a religious debate!

i always encourage free thought

i also encourage free speech

if you don agree with me speak up

and i hope i taught them to agree to disagree on things

that cant be won

in a way i almost look forward to that day

Answer 3

To be honest; its not my job to make them believe. My children will go to church up until they leave the house. All I can do is pray that I raised them right and that they will follow truth.

Answer 4

It does happen.  ( I said that to my mother in the past as well.) In time, and with loving actions and prayer they WILL come around in their time.

Answer 5

Hi hi,

I have told my children that it is my duty to bring them up to adulthood.  If they choose to leave the faith of the family, they have made their choice, and they are on their own.  But as long as they received my support, they are expected to learn to behave.

Frankly, i do not accept those kind of teaching that children has a voice or choice, or even last say, afterall, they are not independence yet.

Answer 6

depends upon their age/s

if they are very young, I would tell them that God says you WILL obey your parents, and if they are nearing the age of consent, it is their choice

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Answer 7

this is what I would tell my child

"Christianity is your own choice, it cannot be something forced upon you..even if you believe simply because we want you to, it would mean nothing, because it has to be a choice, and its not a choice that someone else can make for you."

then I would ask what does she mean by not "wanting to live the christian way of life?" what exactly is she having a problem with, is it the structure of the way we live? or is she struggling with what Christianity believes in? I would need that clarification first because..if its what Christians believe in, then all I can do is point her to reading all she can, and studying all she can to then make and educated decision on if there was a man sent from God, who died for our sins and rose from the dead so that we can all go to heaven..if thats what she means .....then I can understand that, because that is alot to believe in and have faith in, you have to have a very opened mind to come to grips with that, and to have faith in it, if your the type of person who only believes in what you can see, then you will have a hard time believing in something like that. But if what she really means is that she doesn't want to live the christian way of life....like in a moral way, then I might have a problem..because then I would have to ask..what is it exactly that she wants to do that she know her father and I would frown upon? theres really not much to it....I believe alcohol is okay, but being drunk is not, I believe eating is okay, but consuming more than your fair share when people in the world are starving..is not, I believe we should work as hard as we can, and that there should be no hinderance in what we acquire, however, to not share when they're are so many in need is not okay with me. Having a boyfriend and relationships is great, however, being irresponsible with your body is not, DRUGS ARE NEVER OKAY, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. To me you try to love everyone, but you don't let people take advantage of you, nor walk all over you, as Jesus said..do not cast your pearls to swine, but you try to help everyone, and be there as much as you physcially and emotionally can for everyone, but don't neglect yourself either. so with that being said...if her problem is with living morally..than yes, I would have a problem with that, and I would want to know just what sort of things she is wanting to do differently..however if her problem is as I stated above...believing in something supernatural, then in that case all I can do is ask her to research it a much as possible so that she is absolutely sure, I would pray for her, and answer to the best of my ability any questions she had. and then in the end..hope that the way I live my life and what things occur in my life will be a testimony to my belief.

Answer 8

No I won't support them.

I will be very very sad. I wish they were not born.

Answer 9

absolutely - would and have done.

my life is mine and I make my choices.  that doesn't mean my choices are right for any of my kids.  they have to find their own balance in life.....my job is to offer support and help if they need it - and sometimes, if it's a personal thing, they have to ask for it - I won't just volunteer it if it isn't wanted.

Answer 10

Yes I would. A person's faith is their own and a choice that they make. No one can make us believe anything we don't want to believe. Even in countries that have religious sanctions, there are those that privately practice other  faiths. What is in our heart and mind is personal. We cannot change others. Only ourselves and our behaviour. Through love and kindness we can  set an example for others. By accepting and loving my child as a person and not for their faith, I am showing them what my faith is truly about.

Answer 11

Yes.  Just as my parents let me find my own way, I want the same for them.  

Answer 12

well according to be bible if your daughter or son rejects god, and tries to seduce you into rejected god, you must kill them!! and you cant get someone to do it for you, YOU have to do it!!

....nice huh!

Answer 13

Obviously not...but that doesn't mean I'd shun them either.

I couldn't force them to believe what I do..I'd just pray for them while still loving them.

Answer 14

I would be disappointed and would ask them to really study the options and pray about their decisions. But they would still be my children and love them no matter what.