Communication with teacher?

Question

Okay so I had this band teacher in middle school and we became close I guess....I mean all band teachers are awesome and people get attached to them. Anyway, she helped me with some problems and stuff and we emailed each other and she had became my mentor over the years. (and she still is) Well, I started high school as a freshman today and she is now the assistant band teacher at my high school! (She quit in 8th grade to have twins) Anyway, we always emailed over the summer and stuff. Today in band class she told me that I am now in high school, and we should communicate in person, and that if I needed to write stuff down on paper and give it to her, it was okay. She said she knew it would be hard for me because it is HARD for me to talk about issues in person. Anyway, over the summer I told her I wouldn't bug her with my problems anymore. So what am I supposed to tell her? I was just going to email her every now and then to let he know how my life was going. Is she asking me to come to her with problems, or what? I'm kinda confused.... Does what I am saying make any sense? I mean....if it's normal talking about like "Do we need instruments tomorrow?" or "What are the requirements for such and such?" I don't need to write such things like that down for her to see...I can just say it, and she knows that. (i think) So I am confused...help? It'd be nice to go to her with problems, but I would feel like I would be breaking some sort of promise...

PS It is a google email so the school people wouldn't see it, and plus I don't say anything they would need to see. I think she is just trying to help me with social skills so when I grow up.. IDK!

Answer 1

What a great teacher you have? I am touch by your remark that she is a mentor. Maybe she feels overwhelmed with her personal life and career and may not have the time to answer to emails from her students. You mentioned that she has twins that's a fulltime job by itself. Don't take it personal, if she writes to you she would have to do the same thing for all her other students and now it seems that she has her hands full. One thing I learned over the years is that people sometimes will come to our lives for a season and will bless us with their friendship, but is only for a season! Count your blessings, try to move on and dio your best!

Answer 2

uhm, that sounds creepy to me. its one thing to be a mentor and all, but to tell you that you can talk to her like you are describing sounds like it could turn into something that would be what they call, illegal. ... i think you should do what you said--just maybe email her once in a while. its too bad shes in the same school as you again...but you can do it. let it go. youll be fine. thats just me, though.

Answer 3

I think the teacher is trying to help you with your social skills and that nothing sinister is implied.  It sounds like you may need some help talking about things that bother you aloud; she is trying to help you.

Answer 4

Hi -- I am a retired teacher, and remember what it was like when I had little kids.  I am guessing that this teacher may not have time to email you as much as she did before.  She may only be asking that you keep school issues at school because she is too busy at home with the new babies to help you via email.  I think that she is trying to say that she would still like to be your mentor, but that it has to be within the school day, as she now has her family commitments.  She may also think that it would be good for you to chat with her, and work on your social skills in that area.  I wouldn't worry too much about this.  Over thinking things can make a mountain out of a molehill.  If something really important comes up that you feel shy discussing in person, perhaps that is when you may want to write something down.  If nothing that you are talking to her about is that sensitive, don't worry about it.