Death In The Family?

Question

When someone's child or sibling dies of, say, cancer, is it usually harder when it's the youngest to die first?

Answer 1

any childs death is traumatic no matter what sequence i would assume the youngest would be the hardest

Answer 2

Yes.

Of course it is.  We all "expect" death, and our parents/ grandparents  to go before we do.  That's supposed to be the standard order of things.. or so we like to believe.  When things don't fit what we expect (or want), it throws us all for a loop. And if you already are hurting by the immediate reality, the rest makes it harder.  I do tons of genealogy.. one (deep) thing that it does for me, is to look at the long term, broad picture of those that already have gone on.. and yet the knowledge remains. It is a cycle.  But that knowledge doesn't matter much when death is immediate and part of now.

I hope, that if this is an event you are dealing with now.. I hope that you know that someone sends you a caring hug.

Answer 3

I read your really sad question and I just wanted to say much the same as Wendy C,  that if you are going through the pain of losing a child, right now I just want to send a hug and to tell you that you will be in my prayers tonight. God bless. xx

http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

Answer 4

I worked with a woman whose grandmother had lost a son in WWII and an infant.  She asked her grandmother which was the hardest.  Her grandmother told her it was the infant. She said it was like the baby was snatched right out of her arms.

God love you and all your family.

Answer 5

This isn't really a genealogy question.  Maybe you should ask this in relationships.