Depression and asking for help.

Question

I've been dealing with some really hard things in my life within the past week, and it's really hard to take. I've been crying non-stop, I really feel like I'm going to die because of the sadness. I'm 14 years old, and I want to talk to someone, a professional about everything. But I'm extremely scared to ask for help because I'm embarrassed that I need help. But I know I can't live my life so upset and hurt, so how can I ask my mom to get me help?

Answer 1

Don't be embarassed about having to see someone about a few problems in your life. Millions of people do it all the time. Confront your mom with how you feel, how some counseling would benefit you and how it would make you feel a whole lot better about your problems.

Answer 2

Assuming that you and your mom have a close relationship, talk to her.  Speaking as a parent and grandparent, my kids, as they were growing up, knew that I would always listen to them because I loved them.  Oh, there were times when they did something wrong and were afraid to come to me.  However, I would let them know that they may hide it from me now,  they may hide it from me tomorrow, but parents always have a way of finding out when there is a problem.  They found it a lot easier to come to me right away and we would work together to find a solution.

I am bipolar suffering from depression, mania, and anxiety.  I have been where you are, feeling like everything is going the wrong way.  It got so bad that I, too, felt like I was going to die.

Realizing that there is a problem is the biggest step to take in getting things back in order in a person's life.  You are there already.  Willingness to  talk to someone, especially a professional is a wise thing.

Go talk to your mom now.  I am sure that she is loving and understanding.  Thats what parents are there for, a shoulder to lean on.

Please don't do like I did.  I kept trying to get help, would follow the doctor's plan for awhile, then would slide back.  I am finally on a solid path to recovery, seeing a purpose in life and being able to cope with the things that would have seem hard.  Your are young yet and have a wonderful future ahead of you.  Go out and embrace the help that is already there for you by talking to you mom.

God bless.  Go with the grace of God.

Answer 3

If you just sit down and not do anything nor tell anyone , obviosly no one will help..being embarrased has nothing to do with a problem that someone has and is seeking help to solve it...........A person should be embarrased only in one condition ( as my doctor says ) : if he has done something wrong while being aware of it..................

Answer 4

It's okay to ask for help. I dealt with an eating disorder and i was super embarresed about it but i talked to my mom about it and she signed me up for therapy. The first day i wanted to dissapear in the waiting room because i was so embarrassed but once i started getting help i felt so much better. Dont be afraid to get helpits worth a try. And i hope you feel better soon

Answer 5

You should not be embarrassed.  Take it slow.  All you need is just a little patience.  Know that none of what you're feeling is your fault.  You might benefit from professional help by a therapist.  That way you can get advice on what's causing your sadness; and the therapist can point you in the right direction.

Hope I helped.  :-)

Answer 6

talk to ur doctor or a teacher or a guidance counselor. t hey are trained for that stuff and can help you prepare what to say to your mom or give u someone to talk to without your mom. unfortunately since ur only 14 your parents will have to get involved at somepoint.

Answer 7

What made you so sad? A boyfriend issue? A death in the family? It's important to know why you're so upset.

You aren't going to die from sadness, but it would be helpful for you to have a shoulder to cry on and someone to validate your pain. Your Mom should be able to do this and if she can't, I'm sorry...she's not a very good Mom.

It's okay to be sad sometimes, we're human beings...it happens. Talk to someone you trust and try to resolve the problem before it eats you alive. Good luck!

Answer 8

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

Good Luck.

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Answer 9

tell her exactly what you just told us we the total strangers,trst me there is no one that is gonna ever love you more than your own mom.

Please do it right away dont wait.