Did you feel like this too?

Question

My daughter is 13 months old and although I have recently gone back to work part time, I had until last night, not been on a night out since I was pregnant.

I didn't enjoy myself much at all. I felt out of place and would have been happy just to come home. I stayed sober because my daughter had her MMR 12 days ago and the nurse said she may get a temp' around 12 days after the jab so I wanted to be clear headed. SO the staying sober may have not helped me feel more relaxed.

I just feel that i'd rather go out for a few hours to see a film or something instead of going out until 2am.

This question is for mums really because men seem to find it easy to go out when they have a baby.

Did this happen to you? will it go ?

Thanks

Answer 1

Hey Im a dad and I work nights!!

My Daughter is 8 but I miss her terribly through the week as I only get to see her at weekends, feel as though Im a part time dad but I have to work nights for the income as we would go under if I didnt.

Answer 2

Yes...and I still feel the same even though she is 14! lol

Answer 3

I know how you feel, but as long as you know you're child is with someone you trust to look after her properly it's good for both of you if you get a break now and then. You will feel less and less uneasy about leaving her for a night but will always be thinking about her thats natural! i used to phone my mum every half hour when i went out and left my daughter with her ( shes nine now!) these days i just tell mum to phone me if there's a problem or shes upset and wants to speak to me.

Answer 4

me and hubby have been parents for 20 yrs and since our oldest was born 20 yrs ago neither of us have bothered with 'nights out' with pals, just sitting drinking and talking is BORING!!!!!!! I,m trying to think what we did for a 'break'',we went to the cinema, always the matinee, went for businessmans lunches at the chinese or for a pub lunch, we also would go to a gallery or exhibition. Having said that it wasn't often, coz we didn,t always have mum to babysit if she was at work. If hubby is not available to do daytime fun stuff have you got a pal or relative who could. oh just a thought, howabout those college classes where you go maybe one afternoon a week and learn something fun, like beginners guitar or ti'chi, some of them have creches,OR how about a nice gentle swim with a pal at a nearby pool.  Hope you find something that gives you fun, quality 'me time' without having to stay up late.

Answer 5

yes and you will feel like this for a long time, your baby is lucky to have a loving mum some women are so selfish these days.

In time you might let your hair down but for now its fine.