Do I have social anxiety?

Question

I am only thirteen and I'm new at the private school I attend. Most kids at my school have known each other since kinder-garden. Luckily i already knew someone there that I had talked to in the summer. On the first day my friend introduced me to her friends. When they talked to me I started to feel ugly (which was strange considering when i look in the mirror i dont think I'm ugly) as if they were too pretty to be seen with me. Me and my friend kept talking on the phone. The next day i tried to talk to my friend and she started to give me short answers to end the conversation like she was embarrassed to be around me. The strange thing is as the days go by she talks to me on the phone then ignores me. I try to talk to her friends but they respond with an "oh" as if they have no interest in what I'm saying. I once again feel ugly and want to cry.I know what your thinking make other friends, ive tried but they all respond to me with no interest and I start feeling ugly then get uncomfortable talking to them. I have started asking myself "what is wrong with me" "why cant I make friends" and "why can't I be normal" Do I need help with making friends or do I have social anxiety?

Answer 1

i use to listen to the  song...there once was an ugly duckling......listen to it ...then realize there are people out there somewhere who will love you,,,,,,,dont worry...i do.

Answer 2

I do not believe you have social an. I think your just in a new place and your scared and people sense that. People like people with confidence those are the ones that attract others. You need to be more confident and be yourself and people will then be drawn to you. it is really not about how you look, but how you present or carry yourself. Don't let them get you down. You would shake and freak out like panic attacks and you would know if you had social anxiety if you had it believe me you feel really weird don't give up hold your head high

Answer 3

It sounds like some type of social anxiety disorder. Talk to your parent or guardian about this.  

Answer 4

Nothing is wrong with you! Something is wrong with your friend, she is rude and not a 'real' friend. Real friends are rare, give it time. Mean time, don't bother talking to those s****. girls anymore...for they are the ugly and toxic.

Answer 5

You do nottt have social anxiety at all.

Those girl just sound really s****. and obnoxious and you have a good reason to be upset, i know i would be! Trying introducing yourself to other people who sit around you in your classes.

Or just talk to the guys xDDD. Guys arent catty like that at all

Answer 6

just communicate with you friend on the phone, ask her and dont take

"i dont know " for an answer

Answer 7

give it time and try being less needy.  it isn't an attractive quality and makes you sound desperate.  spread your attentions among more than one friend so each one isn't burdened by being your one and only bff

Answer 8

oh i'm sorry, talk and try to be friends with others  

Answer 9

people tend to think of you the way you think about yourself, confidence can go a long way

Answer 10

Ahh you are still just a kid stop worring so much about looks and just have fun while you still can. Once you become an adult you will know that looks aren't everything. Just go outside and play soccer or something fun. Everybody is self concious so why not just say "forget about it" and be you?

Peace.