Do you have to earn trust??

Question

In your opinion do people (be it friend/bf/gf etc) have to EARN trust first?? Or are they GIVEN complete trust first and if they break it then they have to (if its worth it) EARN it back??

Answer 1

Interesting, If I was pushed I would say you have to earn it, but personally I give trust until it's broken.  I like to assume the best in people.

Having said that before anyone is allowed to a place they can do damage, they certainly have to earn that.

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Answer 2

they have to earn trust

Answer 3

trust is earned over time no one should be trusted at first you have to get to know the person

Answer 4

I've been hurt a klot in my life, so it would be hard to trust anyone. So you would have to earn my trust.

Answer 5

It is wiser to prove trustworthy so that the issue does not need to arise.

Answer 6

i have to earn it in the first place lol

which is fair because i make people earn my trust. Only because i have had a lot of people go behind my back and tell people all my secrets, so i find it hard to trust people now.

Answer 7

I would definitely say you have to earn trust, at least from me, first.  Once its broken, however, it is up to you how quickly/slowly that person can earn it back.  If the person is truly, truly sorry for what they have done, and they are someone who you love very much/known since childhood, then it may be possible to trust automatically once more.

Alternatively there are the very few people I think we all trust instantaneously, without having to earn it. Parents, siblings, loved ones, and those I think definitely earning it back is more difficult, as they are closer to you and know exactly how to hurt you.

Hope this helped, interesting question!

Answer 8

I have been hurt and betrayed by a lot of people close to me in my life (mum, dad, siblings etc). I found it incredibly hard to trust anyone until I found the man I am with now. I didn't trust him at first, but when he found out all about my past and didn't flinch, didn't judge me for it, I think that was when I suddenly realised I trusted him.

So for me he earned that trust by doing that one thing, and believing in me. He has supported me 100% as I have confronted my past and dealt with it. I couldn't ever trust anyone as much as I trust him. I would put my life in his hands, no questions asked.