Do you think I should go?

Question

My sister-in-law is getting married and wanted to have a meeting about the flowers she wants at her shower and wedding. The other maids backed out and now it the mother of the bride, her, her fiancee, the florist, and me. I feel awkward and like I shouldn't be there. Maybe I would feel more comfortable if its just the girls but I just feel weird.

What do you think?

I'm not the maid of honor........

Answer 1

Why does she need everyone's input as to what flowers she wants?   Seems a little over the top to have a meeting and ask that the wedding party attends to help her choose flowers.   I personally don't think you have to be there however if she still wants you there to get your input then go.  Just ask her (I wonder why the other people in the wedding party backed out of going to this meeting)?

Answer 2

Nah stay out of it, unless she asked you to go

maybe you can ask about shower flowers

Answer 3

if you feel uncomfortable then just simply be polite and tell her that you can't make it for the discussion...as far as flowers go it should be something the bride, groom and their parents should handle.

Answer 4

I would go.She is going to be in your family.

Answer 5

She obviously wants to include you in the decision making somehow since you are family.

Attend, have fun, and get closer to your sis!

Answer 6

no your there from your brothers side, she have her mom, he brings you ;)

they obviously want you there..

Answer 7

The bride obviously asked you to go for a reason - just go and be there for the bride. If she didn't want you there she would say something.

I wouldn't feel uncomfortable about it.

You can always say to her something like, "Since the other bridesmaids aren't going I was just wondering if you still wanted me to go with you or if you wanted to just make it a family thing. I wouldn't want to intrude..." She will probably tell you she wants you to go. Don't worry - picking out the flowers can be fun; and it's always nice to have the opinion of someone from the bridal party.  

Answer 8

First of all, she shouldn't get to pick the flowers at her shower, she doesn't get any say in that.

Second, why does anything except her future husband need to go with to discuss flowers?  She can't do it alone?

If you feel uncomfortable going, then I think you are well within your rights to decline.

Answer 9

It sounds like enough people are attending. Unless you are like, a flower expert, I say politely tell her you can't make it.