Etiquette for baby showers?

Question

I am pregnant with my third child, and my daughters will be 5 when the baby is born. I am pregnant with another girl. With my first pregnancy I did not have a baby shower. But the father's mother and sister want to throw me a shower and I just want to know if this is approriate, I don't want to look like a free loader or whatever because I already have two kids. And I want to do it as I don't know the mother and the sister and I think it would be a good thing to get them involved. But my mom says I shouldn't have one and stuff. What do you think?

Answer 1

I believe every baby is a reason to celebrate.

Especially if you have gotten rid of your baby things.  I didn't have a baby shower w/ my 1st, did with #2 and with #3.  It's perfectly fine.

Now once you have 4 or 5, you probably shouldn't have a baby shower, maybe like a gift card or diaper shower or just a time to gather w/ friends/family.  Just my opinion.

Answer 2

I think a small one is appropriate, since you didn't have one the first time. I wouldn't recommend registering for big things (like strollers or high chairs), but something along the lines of the "diapers and wipes" would be fine. My main problem with showers for subsequent kids is that it is too much of a strain for friends and family to have to keep coughing up big gifts year after year- but that is not the case for you, since you didn't have one the first time.

Good luck

Answer 3

Of course!

A baby shower is a great way to prepare for your new child!

Plus you get some free stuff! Always a plus. You don't look like a free loader at all, baby showers are as common as birthday parties! Just look at it like your unborn babys birthday party lol

Answer 4

I had baby showers with all three of my kids. Wrong maybe but when the next came along I had nothing. I gave all my things to others who needed them. If people have a problem with it than they don't have to go. No one will force them. Plus it will be a great opportunity to get to know his family. I say do it.

Answer 5

It is common for a pregnant women to have a baby shower no matter how many kids she may have. Baby showers are to celebrate an exciting time in your life, not to just get free stuff. Even though that is a plus. It has been a long time since you had your girls so you probably could use some baby stuff. Good luck and have fun.