Every problem begins with me?

Question

Whenever one of my friends is hurt, it somehow leads back to me.

IE my guy friends ex wrote some messed up questions on here about him, he found out, and he would have never gone out with her if I wouldn't have gone out with this one guy, because he was going to ask me out.

So it began with me.

My parents fight all the time and my mom told me yesterday it usually has to do with me.

And a lot of other stuff.

Like seriously, I try to help whenever I can, but it always seems to backfire in the end.

My dad made me cry the other day because I told him how one of my really close friends started smoking pot(he comes from a broken family) and I felt really bad and wanted to help, and I also told my dad about another one of my friends who everyone calls fat and I stick up for him and even his own friends call him fat, and my dad said

"You go around all the time thinking you can save the world. Well guess what? YOU CAN'T SAVE THE WORLD."

And I said

"Well I can try. I'm not just going to let people get hurt like that, it makes me sad that no one cares enough to help..."

And he said

"You always say your sad. Well it's because you try to help everyone, and you put yourself in the situation and you don't help it at all! You just get heart broken and crushed because you didn't fix it!"

Why do I try to help, and it always backfires?

Answer 1

well you sound like a really nice person with a big heart who just wants to help others, its true we cant save everyone but we can try. its normal to feel upset when things dont go right because you most likely feel guilt as if you have failed them. you need to accept that you can TRY to help others but it dosent mean that it will work.

but its nice to know theres someone as nice as you out there. you probably need something more fuffiling where you can feel as if your doing good for others. maybe some voluntary or charity work?

Answer 2

Sometimes life just feels like that! We all go through times when everything seems to go wrong. But guess what - you are loved and cared for, always remember that, even if your parents don't always say it or show it often. Try and focus on the good things in life and if you try to help someone (for the right reasons) and it backfires, at least you know in your heart you tried to do the right thing! Just love...and eventually, when you're not looking, it will come back to you.