Family and friends are insulting me?

Question

Usually I wear sweaters to hide my arms since when I take it off I get rude comments from my aunts, uncles, and mom. They say things like "you look so skinny" or "don't you eat?" It really hurts me since every time they visit, they just go on and on about me! I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does. Once, a friend convinced me to wear a pair of skinny jeans and a t shirt so when I walked past my aunt she just stared and then told my mom that I had gotten skinnier. This summer I really got my confidence back but it was brought down again.

A couple of my friends have called me skinny to.

BUT my doctor says I'm perfectly healthy.

What should I do? The teasing has been going on for years (I'm 13 now) and I don't think I can handle it anymore.

Answer 1

tell em your anerexic.

Answer 2

If eating bigger portions and more meals doesn't help, try liftng weghts to get muscles. Not that body building muscles haha. Just keep ignoring what they say and if they keep on just rise above it. If your aunt keeps being a douche, punch her in the face :)

That's what I'd do

Answer 3

i know how u feels my grandparents find something to tese me about too

dont le it bother you. i bet u look really good in your skinny jeans and tee. who cares wat ur aunt thinks. skinny is better than fat... lol

have a great summer and forget about them

Answer 4

Seriously, it's better than being an obese girl. And stop worrying so much about what they say because if you start to believe and fall into what they're saying, then you'll really feel like c**p. Are you really going to let those words "you look so skinny" hurt you? Try getting punched in the face. Let physical pain hurt you more than words. Just be happy that you're not 200 lbs and have to lose weight. Just keep eating and smile.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you are going through this and it's causing you so much pain.

First of all, are these comments coming from people who are heavy, overweight, or severely obese? I've had that happen time and time again and usually it's, hate to say it, that they are either jealous or concerned. Not all people know that people have different bone structure/frame, etc. I started feeling self conscious about it, but have finally accepted my body and am extremely happy and feel blessed I don't have to constantly be "going on a diet!"  

What your family SHOULD already know is that you are at a tender age where your body will be going through many changes and possibly even going through a growing spurt which can cause you to either gain or lose weight!

I STILL get this and I'm quite a bit older than you. I've had people ask me if I am anorexic as well as if I am doing drugs! The sad thing about this is that if I were to eat healthy and exercise I would be even smaller.

You know what you do in situations like this?

First and foremost you need to express to them that you do not wish to hear their opinions or comments on your weight anymore as it's hurtful to you.

Next, if THAT doesn't work and they continue to harass you about your weight everytime they start to say anything interrupt them with, "Ohh my gosh you will NEVER believe what I just found out!" Then go off on a current event or something that may be happening locally. Keep getting them to veer from the topic of YOU until finally they realize there are other, more important, things to discuss.

You should have a talk with your mom though to let her know how you feel and see if she can speak with your other relatives about not discussing YOU or your weight!

Please don't let this discourage you. Keep the confidence that you spend all summer building!

Best wishes. If you need any other advice, regarding this, feel free to contact me on here.

You really seem to be bothered by the 'fat' answers. Coming from YOUR side, always being called skinny, etc. It is just as hurtful.

Answer 6

Look on the bright side atleast they arnt calling you fat. Talk to your mom and tell her u dont like it and if a aunt or anyone makes fun of you just stand up for yourself and "talk some ****"

Answer 7

I would definitely rather be what people call skinny than fat, I had this for years as a kid and until I went to serious work which meant a lot of cycling I remained that way. I started my working life as a hairdresser,and changed that to woodworking . About 3 yrs later I visited the hairdresser Who taught me hairdressing, and one of the clients asked if the boss had a new assistant, and the boss asked him if he recognised me, and when he looked at me again, he said "Not that fat little bugger who was your lather lad", that was when I really felt good.

  One is better off a bit underweight, I feel, than overweight, the answer to anyone who calls you skinny is, "Good things come in small packages".

  If you eat well of a healthy diet you have nothing to worry about, if anyone tells you that you look skinny, just say that you would rather be that way than fat, and say that you are happy with the way you are,.

Answer 8

i'll be 13 in like a couple months, and i know some girls that are extremly skinny, and some people make comments, but ive never had this problem, cuz ive never been skinny, but you shouldnt let that bother you. i'd say you should tell your mom "mom, i dont like it when you say im too skinny, because im perfestly fine, and im not too skinny!"  but i would say, iit is better than being called fat..or being fat at least, heres one example: You can fit into a lot prettier and nicer clothes without looking horriblly discusting. and in your case, its not like your anorexic or anything, so yeah, and if your friends are saying this, obviously, there not true friends. friends shouldnt have to care that your too skinny or too fat, they shouldnt care about our apperance at all.